Since I've started using the program, I've noticed that it is very hard for me to trust myslef. I am supposed to be my safe place or safe home, but I am not. I try very hard to get rid of the negative thoughts, but they are so strong and don't trust myself. Anybody have something similar to this?

gulliver

hi gulliver,
this is absolutely my problem too! i'm afraid to be alone because i really don't trust myself-that i'll be able to get myself where i need to go, do what i need to do, or anything. it's really hard to even be alone in a room for a little bit because i immediately start thinking horrible 'what if' catastophic thoughts. but i am working on learning how to be nicer to myself-lesson 3 about positive self talk is really great for that. i think (and hope!) that the trust part will come once i start to change my thinking and begin to tell myself, and really believe, that i am an ok person.
good luck to you!

gulliver,
Im not sure what lesson your on, but please dont worry about this. It does take time to make yourself your own safe person!!
It takes time , and practice beleiving what you are telling yourself. The positive thoughts, and that you will be Okay!
Each day, regardless how you feel,, congratulate yourself you are making it through the program, and beleiving that positive self talk and proper breathing and all the new tools your learning will help you become your own safe person!!! I wish you Wonderful Success!! Nelly

Thank you both, Mello Nello and cole2458 for responding. Both of your messages have helped me and need to work the program better. Have a great weekend! Gulliver

You have all the tools you need to be able to trust yourself. You and only you can utilize these skills. Learning to rely on ourselves takes time, but please know it can be done. You have the ability to stop the negative "what if" thoughts and replace them with positive, comforting thoughts. Do it and keep doing it, and before long you will realize that you can trust yourself, you are your safe place.

I concur-I often don't trust myself to do anything right. That's because I have let myself down-but only because I let someone long ago strike that fear in me.. See, it's always fear. But the program says what Roosevelt did-the only thing to fear is fear. Otherwise, what is there? Nothing but a feeling in our heads. Here's where I think God comes in: He is our salvation, we are not to fear or worry for anything because this world is not all that there is-what the world tells us-how inadequate we are, how important that to do list is, how fleeting time is, whatever, the world's way is not the truth. It's all just crap. All that matters is the good in us and that we share it with others. That is all we have to be concerned about. The rest is just the stuff we must do for the moment. Hope this helps!