Hey everyone:

I was wondering if anyone out there is having the same problem I am. My fiance has depression and I have anxiety. I get frustrated with him because he doesn't try to do anything to help himself feel better. Then, I get anxiety because of his depression. Any suggestions on how I can deal?

Thanks

FeliciaC

I am sorry for the situation you find yourself in, it must be very difficult. All I can say it that you can only handle yourself right now. You can only control your attitude and bahavior. I know it is hard to see someone you love suffering, but you can only help those who want to be helped. And you can't do anything for him until you are better, it you ever could. I am in session 9 which really touches on this. It dose no good to worry about someone you can't change or control. And don't feel guilty about you changing yourself, getting better, and becoming happy. Maybe your progress will help him in the long run. To see that it can get better, but you need to work at it and want it. It can't happen if you don't try. What I am trying to say is it sounds like he doesn't want it. So focus on yourself for now. Do what you know you need. And if he is making it too difficult, maybe you should take a break from him. I'm not saying abodndon him, but do what you need to get better. And realize worrying about him will do nothing but make you sicker.
Good luck!

Corr:

Thank you for your response. You made me see things better and I really appreciate the advice. Thank you for your kindness.

Felicia