I'm not sure how to go about saying this but, here goes. There is a problem that is on going in my life with a very close loved one. This has been going on for about 15 years. I live with it every day. I usually just act like I'm not aware of it and go on about my life but lately it has gotten to the point that I can't put up the front anymore. I really feel this is the cause of my anxiety (which is severe) but at the same time I get sooo anxious when trying to deal with this person and the problem that I feel like I am losing it. Some times I feel like I can't speak and others, (like now), I feel if I talk about it anymore or deal with it anymore I can't even funtion. I feel so devastated by this. I question my sanity and feel like I am just going to lose control and even forget how to care for my children or even who I am. I realize this sounds sooo wierd and I keep telling myself that it's just anxiety. Can anyone relate or have any feedback. Thank you for your time in reading this.

Sincerely,

Hope40

It's hard for me to answer given the little information you were able to share. It's not to say however, that if you had provided more info, I would have been able to give you positive feedback.

I get like this too. Particularly with situations I can't do much about, and are literally out of my control.

I'm not doing the program but if you are I'm sure some of the poeple here would tell you to go over a particular lesson or try the meditation tapes. And so you should.

What I'm trying to do is let my mind go blank more often. By that I mean not thinking about anything. I have the tendancy to go over events/ conversations in my head all the time. I'm trying to basically control my thoughts. It's very difficult to do of course but so far so good.

It sounds like the person you are talking about could be your partner or a significant other whom you live with. Can you get out for walks each day? Set ground rules that you are happy with? Talk about it with him/her?

The best advice that my friend ever gave was this "if you don't take care of yourself first, how can you take care of others? how can the people who love you get the best from you then..."

You can do it!

Hi

First of all know that you're not going insane and you're not going to lose control, you are incredibly overwhelmed at the moment and it's normal to have this response if you're in a difficult situation and like you said it is just anxiety. Even while reading this take time to stop and breathe and while breathing say to yourself that you are calm and relaxed, even though you don't feel this way you're body will start responding to the message.

Now I'm not sure how to help you with the actual situation because I'm not sure what it is about, but I also think that it's probably about your spouse or significant other. Anyway would you feel comfortable to share the problem with us, sometimes telling it to people that don't have a vested interest in the outcome can be really helpful. Please understand that I'm not trying to pry into your life and I respect your privacy totally. We are a compassionate and caring lot that come to this forum and if you feel like talking about it further this is a very safe place to do it.

Having said that I pray that your situation will be resolved for the better because I can sense your pain and you have to look after yourself because YOU are worth it.

Please write back to let us know how you're doing because we would love to hear from you.

Darling you're not alone and you do have all of us for support.

Love and hugs

Shassy