I shared this in Chat earlier, but thought I might share it here too.

Last night I had a lightbulb moment. Just something inside me clicked. I was discussing a topic w/hubby and how I would have to be strong against my mom if I needed to (if I became trustee of my great aunt's estate). I kept asking hubby over and over and over, do YOU think I'm strong enough to stand up to her? Do YOU think I'd have the guts enough if I needed to? He said yes every time, but then I'd ask him why and I felt he kind of fumbled for an answer at first.

Well, he left to see his dad and a while later if just clicked - it's not up to him if HE thinks I'm strong enough. I have to decide I'm strong enough. It's up to me to have that confidence in me, not hubby. I DO decide I'm strong enough. I am NOT a victim of my mom's approval anymore. I will have my own self approval....

It sounds so simple now, when I type it out, but it was such a turning point for me. I lack confidence in most things (though I can fake it if I need to), but especially when it comes to my mom. I have a new sense of real confidence in me - maybe even a sense of empowerment. It feels good! Though I'm almost afraid it will not stick around like I want it to. I will just keep listening to my tapes and reinforcing positive self thoughts I guess.

Thanks for letting me share!

WOW! What a breakthrough for you! I think it is fabulous that you have more confidence. I KNOW it isn't so simple! What an inspiration you are!

Good for you. Print out what you just posted and keep it as a reminder when you hit those down times.

Congratulations! Doesn't it feel great? It's wonderful to have your husband's support, but it's even more important to have your own. You're doing great work.