Someone, who meant well, came on too strong to me telling me what to do on something that basically was none of their business. Rather than be assertive I allowed it hoping not to make waves and that it would go away. Then I realized that I had a fear of man and needed to speak up assertively with tact and kindness. It took a lot to do so in this situation. Nevetheless, I did it and I am thrilled because it was a major triumph for me and I am at peace with the other person. By communication I've learned one can reduce sleepless nights.
Victoria the victorious! But really so happy for you! I also have been speaking up when usually I'd clam up and it really does make the world of difference.
Communication is important and healthy, Oddly enough there are times I'm pretty assertive and times I just can't seem to be, it's strange. I think it comes from a fear of not being accepted, a fear of rejection, or abandonment. It's like it seems easier to keep friends and family closier to aviod any conflict but its not healthy to allow it to build up in us. Way to go though Victoria, thats fantastic! It feels good to talk sometimes and speak whats on our mind or in our hearts!
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