I just have to share this with you all. Today I was thinking of having an important talk with my mother about how our relationship is changing...and I started what-ifing "what if she gets mad?, what if i say something mean on accident? what if we end up in a exploding shouting match?" then I started having scary thoughts of us screaming at eachother. But even BEFORE the talk...I knew and had the skills to know it hardly ever happens that way...I told myself that because of the past situations where I catastrophized and made them out to be so much worse than they really are.

I calmed myself down...gave myself a reality check....my mother and I are adults and mature enough to talk things out. I ended up initiating the talk (which is something I hardly do) and it was a bit awkward but it ended up pretty good, and I prevented a severe panick attack!, now THAT is a way to spend a Sunday!

ChangingTimes07,

That is awesome. Keep up the good work.

Good Job!!! You changed your relationship with your mom for the better...you and she will remember this forever. Carolyn

CONGRATS!

Facing family (especially parents) is so difficult to do sometimes. It often takes a lot of mental preparation and strength. It sounds like you had no problem with either of those as you were prepared and diverted panic!!! That's sooooo exciting...cheers to your achievements!!

KEEP IT UP-ONE DAY, ONE SITUATION AT A TIME!