Well I did it, I confronted my mom on something that's been bothering me.

Here's the past info...

I have two yr old twins and my brother has a 3 mo old. Before he had his child my mom was asking for us to sell her our stuff and 'give' all our kids clothes to them. Well...I did give some clothes, but had no thank you from my brother or his wife. They never say thanks for anything. My mom hardly ever buys anything for our kids, yet keeps asking to buy our stuff at half price for their baby.
Here's the deal...
The buy our items thing has been making me feel bad because we pay full price for everything and hardly ever hav anything just given to us. The other thing is I am really angry with my brother right now for a few reasons(won't get into them all), but the main thing is he doesn't thank us.
So I've been stewing over this issue for awhile on how best to confront it and I used the assertive lesson to do it.
I started off telling my mother I felt her buying the items was ok, but it was making me feel bad because she rarely buys our kids things. Then told her it isn't really about money/material things, but I feel things are a bit unfair(yes I know life isn't fair). I also said it'd be nice for my brother to call our house once in awhile and to ask himself if we have things for sale instead of her being the middleman.
My brother and I haven't spoken for a few months now because of an arguement. I could've handled that arguement differently looking back, but no more guilt, I've learned from it and I'm moving on. Resolve dissolve, let go right?
We came to an agreement that she will not buy things from us. I'm fine with this and let her know I will still have handdowns for my neice-WHEN my husband and I decide we want to, not her intervening.
Anyways it feels so good to:

A.Voice my feelings
B.Reach an agreement
C.Not end in an arguement.

This to me is a triumph and I feel a weights been lifted! Thx for reading

Addy,
I think you approached your mom just right!! Sometimes,, we just have to "speak up" for ourselves. And it would be nice if your brother would just call and say "Thank You" now and then. But dont count on it,, But im very Proud of you and YOU should be proud of yourself!!!! Well Done!! Love ya Nelly

Thx so much Nelly. I feel a weights been lifted off my shoulders. I went into the conversation with the quote" You have a right to be heard, but not necessarily win" My mother and I usually never agree. We didn't really agree, but came to a solution instead.

Solutions are the best addy!!! And you did it. You are making boundaries for yourself, and thats a very good thing!!!! Love ya Nelly