i just lost my job as a result of my anxiety and depression
can they really fire me for missing work because im not feeling good

is there anything i can do at all


the last weekend in july is when this snowball of events started.
at work my boss talked to me and warned me about my tardies and wrote me up, so i started trying to fix my car on my own so i wouldnt lose my job. that night my boyfriend and i had a fight, he punched me and i left. the next day i realized he took my credit card and charged on it. on top of calling the bank the police and reporting the card stolen i had to hear everyones i told you so's. on the first of sept i got a severe head injury while working on my car which caused me to miss some work 3 days later i tried asking my family for a ride to cash my check and no one would take me and they started griping me out about my boyfriend my car how im not doing anything right and i started having an attack they had told me if i ever talked to my boyfriend again they would kick me out but i really didnt care i had to get out and get away from them yelling and griping at me so i called my boyfriend to pick me up and they kicked me out all i had was my purse and the clothes on my back i couldnt even go back to get clothes for work so i was freaking out the next few days i ended up having to buy clothes each day before my shift to wear to work. monday the eighth i was broke stressed depressed and still trying to get my family to give me some clothes and my phone charger i went to the house and as i got there my brother left the house and didnt let me get anything i was now so stressed out depressed having non stop panic attacks on top of still in pain from getting hurt on the first i called in on monday was off tuesday got called into the boss's office wednensday and they told me i was pretty much demoted for the time being till things settle down and if i need to take some time off let them know. well i couldnt afford to miss any more work. thursday the next day i felt so bad i seriously wanted to die everything in my life was falling apart the only thing i had was my job which was hanging by a thread and didnt know what to do while i was on my lunch break i fell asleep and didnt wake up till friday night and i panicked again i knew for sure my job was gone i called first thing in the morning to apoligize and explain but was fired

i didnt know what else to say or do she asked if i wanted to come in and talk to her but all i could think of was what else can i say besides hey sorry i miss worked and didnt call in i fell asleep while i was busy contemplating suicide

well the stunned silence wasnt the answer she wanted and by the time i got enough guts to call and try to talk to her it was too late

a lady i work with told me she probly wouldve let me keep my job had i called a few hrs earlier but i was too afraid too

now im not even eligible for rehire ive lost my med insurance and lost all chances of pursing my goal to further my career and move up in the company


i dont know what to do

Dear Grasshopper,

Your post is a bit scattered and hard to follow, probably due to the subject matter and the fact that you were panicking (sp?) while you were writing it. I will give any advice I can muster, I noticed that no one has posted you yet.

Firstly, I'm very sorry to hear about everything. You definitely do not deserve any of it. As far as your boyfriend goes, I really think you do not need him, anyone that hits you is not deserving of your attention/love. You can get everything back together, there has to be a way. Forget your last job, unless you can really go in and mend things with them. There will always be new jobs in the future, you can do it.

Try to reason with your family, really explain to them that you have severe problems and need help for a little while. Hopefully they can support you for a little bit and you can slowly work your way back into the workplace. You need to get healthy first.

This is all very vague but again, I'm not exactly sure what's all going on in your post. The exact details are a bit scattered is all. Reply back if you see this? Let me know anything?

Hope something turns out better . . .

Hello Grasshopper81,
OMG you have had one hech of a bad time lately. I feel so bad for you and all you are going through. You are really worked up right now and understandably so but please take some breaths and try to calm down a bit at least.
Tomorrow's a brand new day and a fresh outlook on all these issues.

I truly in my heart know you must get rid of the boy friend who hit you. No real man hits a woman for any reason. If he did it once he will keep on doing it. You are not a punching bag for him or anyone else. That would be the 1st of several positive steps to take. I also feel this sin't the 1st time he has been abusive to you and likely why your family won't let you back in. They are feeling frustrated and using tough love to try and get accross to you that you deserve better and know the scenerio all too well. Having said all that and praying you will listen to me or someone who replies to you...you have to pick yourself up and swallow your pride and somehow the fear and go to your place of prior employment and talk calmly to whomever you need to speak to...if there is any hope or you want that job back. Otherwise you will be starting over someplace new...which is ok if you are accepting of that idea.

Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

This program will teach you the much needed skills so you have the self worth and self esteem to never accept being abused again. It's just so wrong to take abuse and you know it is already. You really just need to be alone and get better for yourself and future. Only You Can Make That Happen!!!!
We can only give support...and we will..but you are responsible for getting started and working hard each day. I really really hope with all my heart you will read every post over and over again and make the choice to fix yourself and lose the loser boyfriend.

I can't think of anything more to say right now.

God Bless and Good Luck!!!!

Grasshopper: I am sorry to hear this,of you losing your job. I truly feel for you in this situation,as I too,lost mine this past March. I believe some of my anxiety/depression symptoms were kind of the culprit for me. But it was mainly stress,as I couldn't perform a task fast enough,to managments' productivity standards.Anyways,I do hope you find another job soon. Sometimes they don't come as soon as we want them,but I'm sure it will come.That's what I tell myself,as I've been out of work for about 6 months. I don't try to let it depress me like it did,and hopefully it won't for you or anyone else either. Your one question,was if managment could terminate anyone for being out a lot cause of illness.? That depends on the managment,the company and their rules. I worked with one woman that called in many,many times,and she didn't get fired. She claimed she was ill.Well,I believe part of it. I hope you will continue to work this program and stick with it and check in with the peer support continually to get encouragement and help(advice). Are you able to talk to any family or friends about your situation? That may help at least a little to talk to someone. Better yet,if you are able to talk to a minister or pastor at a church.? And one more thing,is if you havn't already done this,but if you have no insurance to do this,some counseling centers,or clinics,accept certain insurances that people qualify for that have little or no money. Others,do counseling sessions on slide scale basis. Maybe if you are really desparate for help in your area,some larger cities,have at least one Crisis center. They have suicide prevention counseling,and doctors to screen for whatever problems you are having,i.e.anxiety,depression,etc. and then can refer you to center or clinic from that point on. I hope this all helps,as this is what information,I was given from I was given in the past. Ahccs(sp)said like"Access"is a insurance in our area,for people with no income or people with hardly any money. Please check into it,or something of that sort in your area. Cause once you have that,some places,you can get counseling and meds.free. I'm not saying it is true,in your area,as I don't know. Take care,and hope things work out better for you.

In regard to if your employer can follow you for missing work, unfortunately they can if you are not on FMLA or short term disability.

But as others have said; cut your losses with the lost job and find another.