I have dropped my career as a graphic designer after my husband has been transferred to Boston who is a corporate executive. The situation changed when John lost his job in a corporate reorganization. My children are in high school now and they can take care of themselves. I would really love to start my job again and I think it would be financially sensible. My husband does not agree with me and this is causing stress in my family life. He has starting taking a few medicines without a physician’s consultation. Can anyone suggest a better and safe way? All tips and suggestions are welcome.

What kind of meds is he trying? Is it something natural? My Naturopath told me to try L Tryptophan

Isabeisabelle- Does your husband say why he doesn't want you to fulfill your needs?

Would he do the program? That is an alternative that some choose.

How can he get the medicines without a consult?

Is his life balanced, work, play, sleep? Does he exercise? Eat correctly? ... I would be concerned also-Have you thought about some counseling together? Carolyn

Isabeisabelle,
Carolyn's first question is so well stated - try asking your husband this almost word for word.
Of course, calmly, assertively, and sincerely.

I'd be concerned about the meds too. Is this a pattern with him? Get stressed out and reach for something to self medicate? Are you able to talk this out with him? Tell him your concerns?

This program might be the answer for you to assertively counteract and learn to under react, to lessen that stress in your family.
Smile, sounds like you're not the rigid one here, but you may have to take the first step.

Counseling sounds like a good idea. Perhaps your husband is experiencing a blow to his male ego, and self esteem and doesn't know how to deal with this. We all know that the famous ego can get in the way of reasoning. Guess that's sort of obvious.
Could he possibly feel threatened by the thought of you taking on the "bread winner" role? It's temporary, until you're both back to work.

This question has been lurking in my mind for a few minutes here. --
Is your husband the type that needs to have control over everything? I mean fairly extreme here and you might have to think about this a bit to even answer. If so, he may have a problem thinking that he's losing that control right now. With you returning to your career, that brings on the need to balance out responsibilities in the family. It also means that he may need to make some adjustments in his routine.
Could that be a major issue with him? He likes the roles as they are and can't adjust to the change, or won't?

Sometimes we just have to take a gentle step forward and keep praying for the others to join us along the way.

God bless and hugs to you.

It’s nice of you, thinking of starting your career again to help your husband keeping in view of the current situation. Well taking medicines without a physician’s consultation is not good. I think he better opt for stress relief patches which could be available from http://www.theramood.com/. They have a calming effect and safe. Hope this would help you.

It seems that theramood has 5HTP in it. I would be careful taking it because it may react with certain antidepressants. It might be safer to talk to an MD with an approach towards alternative medicine.
cheers