Me and my ex-husband have been apart now for five years, we have two kids and I need to talk to someone about my problems. He was always there for me in the beginning and everytime I have a problem I think of him, what would he tell me to do?

I don't have anyone I think would understand me as much as he did. I know now I should have tried my hardest to keep the relationship going but I felt so weak and helpless at the time that I just let him go. So now I'm wondering what to do because everytime I try to forget about him, he just keeps popping up in my mind. And I've changed but I can't change this from happening!
Any advise would be very helpful!

I just wanted to offer you my compassion. These things are not easy. Is there any way you and him could get back together or ???

lisa,
How does he feel aboutyou? Is he remarried or still single? I will say this, most of the time the answers we are looking for are within ourselves. The great thing about this program is that it will teach you to be your OWN BEST FRIEND. I realize how hard it is to not have him thier to ask questions, but when it comes to helping you, its in YOUR OWN hands. Stay with the program, and really get into it. Journal about your feelings and your questions. Having anxiety makes us co-dependent on others, even though we hate it, and once that person we were so dependent on is gone, we feel lost and alone and scared, because we are having to deal with ourselves alone, but we really arent alone. Inside yourself there is an answer for every question you have. Depend on YOU more, make decisions , if you make a wrong one, its no big deal, EVERY HUMAN MAKES WRONG decisions in thier life. If you really love your ex husband, and he is single and not with anyone, talk to him about how you feel. ITs possible he could be feeling the same way. But be very sure of your feelings for him before you do this. Take care, Nelly

I too have been divorced for 5 years...Its hard because Im still single and have not been able to replace her in my life with someone else. I have dated, but not anyone seriously since her. I want to, but I am so picky and a little jaded. But I understand....I try to forget about her and think positive but it is still hard...I have not even talked to her in 2 ror 3 years. She was married 3 years ago, so obviously she has that space filled in her life again. She was my last real partner in life and it is hard letting that go and being on my own...unfortunantly hind site is always 20/20...but I am strong and have learned to get through my problems...and my family and friends have never been so important in my life now. You will be OK. Look from within and look to God, Family and Friends for help....Its always good to get your problems and worries on the table.