huntersmom,
Saw your post and read the threads and boy, there's a full spectrum of relationship experiences here! Something that struck me with your post is your husband's wants. Makes me think about a phrase from a book written by a man who used horses to counsel people. His observation was men are scared little boys. They develop social acceptable behavior but underneath it all, they are scared boys. So, the more obnoxious they are, the more uncomfortable they are in their ability to deal with the situation. Some men just have no idea how to deal with emotions. Especially someone elses! They're so self absorbed in fear it is all about them. I truelly can relate to your frustration and if I have any advice it would be to similar to CFE's. Some men need very clear directions.