I had the worst night in 2 1/2 monthes last night. As I lay there trying to sleep{slept 3 whole hours} and knowing I wasn't going to I analyzed why I was there again. I am figuring out that feeling threaghtened stresses me out. Being stressed out keeps me awake and when I can't sleep I get physically sick, and then I can't function. I have been telling my daughter for years now that for me it is imperative that I get my sleep and that any stressors in my life that prevent that must go. She chooses to ignore that and put all the blame on me. What I don't understand is why those in my life who know me can't see that for themselves. Why must it be explained? Once again I am in the position of having put boundaries in place to protect myself. And I seem to spend a horrendous amount of time defending myself. I'm tired of it. Anybody got any ideas?

Catspurr,
I totally understand how you feel. The thing you should remember is that kids live in there own little bubble and believe the whole universe revolves around them so why should they have to stop to think about you? LOL, my daughter has actually told me just because I have a problem why should she have to help me deal with it? I decided that she was right. Now, I sleep with headphones on and listen to meditation music if that doesn't help I get up and do yoga. If I wake up tired and stressed I do more yoga. It really makes me focous on me and my goal, instead of looping the same worries all night and making things worse. I build positive energies through yoga and belly dance then light a candle and imagine all the good energies being used to solve my worries. It really helps me focus on the building of good habits instead of worry.

This isn't the first ime the subject of yoga has come up. The main way I deal with stress is through my running which I did the next morning. Helped alot. Then the next night I loaded up on something that helps me sleep deeper.

But on the yoga subject. Can you recommend a good yoga video? I haven't gotten into bellydance yet. Running is my outlet.

Hi catspurr,

How are you feeling? Sorry to hear that you had a terrible time when you couldn't sleep and that your daughter is not too supportive or understanding. Glad you came here because we'll support you. I love this forum for that reason. Everyone is so nice and very supportive here which means so much Well there is a good yoga tape out there called Yoga walk it's by this lady named Leslie Sansone. She's excellent when it comes to exercise use hers all of the time. Hope this helps out. Don't worry your daughter will turn around eventually. Maybe you should have her sit down with you and let her listen to the tapes. Just a suggestion. Take care, hun.

Lexi

catspurr,

What's with your ex bugging you 16 years after your divorce? And why is your daughter doing it now also? I don't understand. No need to reply if you don't feel comfortable. I just don't understand why soneone would be at you for something so long ago.

Don53. Probly because that is what he does best. He is a freaker{ freaks out about things when it comes to his kids--and takes his anger toward things out on me--and doesn't recognize that aspect about himself or think it is important enough to change}. My daughter does it because she grew up watching her father doing it and supposedly getting away with it{ it is a controling feature--see Patricia Evans book Controling People} and she is still only 18 so is in a space where I can't really communicate with her. I have sole custody of the kids and I think it gets to him sometimes.

people will push your buttons all through life causing you stress ,I dont think we should try to fix other peoples faults ,but try to strengthen ourselves so we dont sweat the small stuff,cuz if we sweat all the small stuff it will all pile up and thus there we go stressed out.I really have to work on that one myself.Its not easy but i surrender once in a while and i will tell ya it feels pretty good not trying to be perfect.