Iam so tired of feeling sorry for myself. Anyone out there feel the same? I listen to other peoples problems and I hear them and I really try to feel compassion for them but inside I am thinking to myself if you had to deal with what I have to deal with every day then you might not be so damn unhappy in your life I have always believed and told others in my family not to whine about the problems in our lives because someone else is always worse off then we are , but sometimes I get so tired of trying to put up a front like everything in my life is so good. I guess I am on the PITY POT right now but anyone else out there feel this ? anyway thanks for letting me vent.

All of the time!

I balme myself for my anxiety and depression, discount any positive things I do and only look at the negative.

I always want to know whay I can't be like "everybody else" -- social, happy, relaxed.

I have been in therapy for 7 years, i have been on cognitive behavioral therapy for about a year now
and I keep wanting to give up everytime the sad feelings come up.

Oh yea I get the same way only now I have given up the front...if I ever had it? it's been a long time;-D
And the grass is always greener on the other side...isn't it???
Tahirra, please tell me about this cognitive behavioral therapy...is it anything like
neuro bio feedback?
Looking forward to hearing from you! Have a good day!!!

DEAR KRO,

cognitive behavioral is very similart to mwc center program, but you get individualized attention, tailored to your specific needs.
I have worked on coping statments, alternative responses to negative/worry thoughts, I am now trying to do the behaviroal more -- exercise, diet, strategies to stop picking at my skin.

also list of positves each day(positve data log)
experiments and challenges
rate moods
worry time
pleasure & mastery
ACCEPTANCE
breathing and muscle relaxation
socializing (i have social phobia)

THE LIST GOES ON.

Tahirra, do you give out your e-mail address? I would love to ask you about something you mentioned in your post, but privately if that is ok here. Look forward to hearing from you, thanks, Kaye

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[qb]Tahirra, do you give out your e-mail address? I would love to ask you about something you mentioned in your post, but privately if that is ok here. Look forward to hearing from you, thanks, Kaye[/qb]

I emailed you, that way everyone won't see my address.

Okay I am new to this, but my question to anyone who is willing to answer is. Why do I always have to feel so down about myself? I am so tired of feeling that nothing will ever go right for me. Know what I mean.

Hi Barbwire, I understand what you are saying. I used to think this way, but what helped me was just sitting myself down and counting my blessings. I used to always compare myself to others, thinner, funnier, etc. Well that gets you nowhere. Now I try to think about my "good qualities" and not put myself down.
I am new here too, but have been reading all the posts and it has really helped me to realize that this is something that we just have got to work at, daily. So when I get up, I thank God for another day and try my best to be positive about things.
For instance, the other day, I went down stairs to get some beef out of the freezer, well it had been unplugged (accidently) and everything in it was ruined. All our beef - gone! So I went upstairs and thought, well, you can either overreact or just say "Oh well!" I chose the latter and I was really ok with it. All the fretting in the world wouldn't bring the stuff back. So try not to be so hard on yourself and I truly hope things get better for you. Kaye

barb,
I bet if you really think about it, everday there is something positive that happens for you. What happens is we dwell on the negative things, and thoughts. For instance, Monday, i woke up feeling like crap, flopped out of bed and immediately told myself, well this day is going to suck. and sure enough the whole day sucked, except that my granddaughter called me long distance , just to tell me she loved me. But, i never thought about that till the next day, i instead has just taken a positive wonderful thing, and dismissed it, because i was determined to have a bad day. See what i mean?? We defeat ourselves without even trying. So we have to Try, to find the good things, even when things are going like crap. Take an inventory of your day, write down in your journal all the negatives, and they FIGHT back with POSITIVES.. God bless you

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[qb]Iam so tired of feeling sorry for myself. ... I guess I am on the PITY POT right now...?[/qb]

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Here is a quote I found on flylady's site "This has really helped with my feelings of "poor me"...Nothing kills a pity party faster or better than doing something for someone else!"

I thought you might like this one! I find it's very true. So, is there someone that you can help?

http://www.flylady.com/pages/flylady_hb_gifts.asp

Omigosh...reading all of these posts just made me burst into tears because I feel the same way. I am so tired of feeling sorry for myself too. I have so much to be thankful for. And that is most of all my 17 month old son who I adore...I feel so guilty all the time because I don't want my depression/anxiety to affect him. I want to be a good mom. Any advice would be great...thanks for listening.

Sadfornow..I know what you mean.I definitey can relate..I have a 4year old son whom I adore and I always get scared and wonder if my anxiety and negative thinking will rub off on him..and what if he has problems with anxiety and depression. All these negatives roam in my head. I focus on his smile..I hug him and that really makes me feel like I am in the present moment.I use the skills when I talk to him and I am aware of how I react to him when he doesnt behave or does something bad. I also get active with him and play with him really focusing on the present and the activity reduces my anxiety. You know what I do have a problem with and maybe you can relate or have any advise. I would like to have another child but dealing with this condition scares me...it scares me to be pregnant and still suffer from with anxiety which in turn would be unhealty for me and the baby.

Now and then I'm guitly of being on the poor me trip--one thing though--before the tapes, I never, ever,would even mention about my "problem"--after all, we phobics want so desparetly to appear "normal"---but now I've opened up and will tell people about my problem--to any poor soul that will listen (poor them--LOL)---but the thing is, then they start telling me all the "s..t" that has happened in their lives--and I've discovered an amazing thing---everyone but everyone has some major crisis in their lives to deal with, and I mean everyone--but yes--I understand where you are coming from--you want to shout out--hey--BUT YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE--type of thing--right??--Yet one person I told about my problems--not just the phobia, but all that was going on in my life and she proceeded to tell me what happened in her life and it really, really made my problems seem so insignificant--like having had been abused by her boyfriend and the last confrontation she had with him wound up with him threatening her with a gun to her head--and it was like Yikes!!! (to put it mildly)--I don't know it just made my problem so puny.