Why is it that I feel like I must get a million things done in a day? I get mad at myself and feel guilty if I dont do all the house work or get all of my errands run in one day. Im really trying to work on putting the unimportant stuff off until later and just relaxing. Yoga has really helped me to focus and relax,but somedays I just feel like I have to get it all done. Also at work I feel like I have to do everything and if everything is not perfect when I leave im not happy with myself.

Should this topic fall under 'Expectations'? Who said you had to do it all? Do you realize there is no perfect? THey way you do something and they way I do somthing can be so different that there is no 'perfect' way to do anything. You have to find some balance because it is your health involved. You know, the house wont fall down if the dishes are sitting in the sink all night. I know you know this but taking the time to remind yourself can help. Dont know if I helped or anything, but I do know where you are coming from.
Reena

Lauren,

I used to have similar problem, until I quite making to-do list. Instead, I actually schedule each task. If I need to clean up the house then I schedule a one-hour or two-hour slot for that. After a while I got the message � �Oh, so I only have 24 hours a day!� So now I no longer draw up to-do lists or mentally making a list of things that I could not accomplish and then beat myself up big time for not finishing every single one of the to-do item. If a thing that is important enough to do, then I schedule a time slot to do it. Note: not just the starting time, but also the ending time. If you consistently over-book your time, you know you have an expectation issue. I did. Well, still do but in a much lesser degree .

Here is a funny story, I used to schedule not only �preparing dinner� but also �eating dinner� time slot. That was a bit extreme. I have a Handspring Visor, an electronic organizer that beeps at me when it�s time for a scheduled task. After a while I felt like a robot and rebelled. Now I don�t schedule eating time anymore.

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Hi folks, I am having a similar problem, its called procrastination, I let everything sit and sit, I know i should be doing these things around the house, but i put them off until the last minute, i need some sort of orginazition, and something that works for me, also I need to learn to finish things, something else im not good at, if anyone haqs a similar problem , please feel free to give advice, thanks

Hi Eric,
How about scheduling one task for each day of the week and take one day off. You can feel good about doing just one thing that has been waiting for attention and be sure to give yoruself some praise for it too. Finishing is hard to do sometimes too. Other than just making yourself get to it I cant add anything else. Are you afraid that if you do it it wont be good enough? Is perfectionism keeping you from starting in the first place? Be content with the job you do and praise yourself for the effort as well.
Reena

Getting everything done...wow. This is a biggie for me....I am not the best Time Manager (nor is my roommate). We both tend to accuse the other of being bad time managers--he's been unemployed for the last year and a half, and though he's recently stepped up the job search, still hasn't found work.

What I notice in him (and myself), is a propensity to get sidetracked and lose focus on the task at hand, esp. if you perceive your "list" is too long!

Someone said something about drafting up "To Do" lists, and that they thwarted them in favor of scheduing 'tasks'. I think this is a better approach. WE use tasks in MS Outlook at work, and I like this method of scheduling things instead of heaping up lists.

Part of the "busyness" of our daily lives is ingrained in our American culture, and what works for some may not for others, but I definitely need to improve in this area of Time Management.

J.

OHHHH GOD~`I am exactly the same way.I hate it!