Lately, I've created some of my own stress because I've been taking on other people's problems and stresses, trying to help everyone. I worry about I'm trying to learn balance, but it's a challenge.

I know what you mean. I guess that we are prone to be overachievers due to our sensitive natures. We want to make everything better for everybody. But, we forget to put ourself on the list.
Maybe you need to schedule an appointment with yourself that you don't break unless there is a dire emergency. Use the time to do what YOU enjoy or need. A nap, a manicure, read a book or do nothing. Just be.
I tend to get all stressed out about some of my sisters problems and then when I bring the issue up with her she has long ago resolved it and there I am still stressed over something that is no longer even on her mind! I guess we need to remember that we don't have to hold the world up.
Hang in there. I care.
barbriellen

Thank you so much. I appreciate your understanding. And I will keep in mind that '' appointment time with myself.'' One of the biggest things especially lately is babysitting. I love kids and don't mind helping people out by watching their children ; it's just that whenever there is a gathering of some sort, I know that everyone is just assuming that I am the designated babysitter [ because I always do it ,plus all the kids love me, and it is natural for me to care for them.] Though I have no children of my own, my maternal instincts are fully developed. Sometimes I would enjoy being a part of the adults though and get in on the conversations instead of being the one in the background watching everyone's kids. But it comes natural to me to want to help all the parents out and give them a break so that THEY can enjoy themselves.

I used to think that I had to help everyone out. Now I tell people I can't do it. It is such a wonderful feeling. I still get a little nervous about telling people I can do things. I still try to help people out but not all the time. For example, I may do on thing they ask me, but the next time I say I can't do it. It also depends on what it is. If it is a big favor that will alter my whole day or if that person is someone who I know wouldn't return the favor I say no i can't do it.

You answered this yourself. YOu said sometimes you want ot be part of the adult world so say no sometimes and go and enjoy yourself. Its hard a first to say no but try it a few times and it gets easier. YOu dont have to give a long explanation either. Just a quick, "won't work this time." Or "I think its my turn to be part of the activities, someone else can be babysitter." Can't argue with that.

Reena