ATTENTION.

I realized it yesterday, so I thought I would post it to be honest with myself and everyone else going through the program.

I have spent YEARS thinking that being sick or hurt was the best way to get attention (because...bad attention is better than no attention, you know? )...it worked growing up. But now I am an adult and am taking responsibility for my emotions and my issues.

I have always said that one of my worst pet peeves about other people is when they use emotions to manipulate others. It hit me yesterday - that is exactly what I do too!!! That is probably why I hate it so much in others!!!

So...here's to being honest and forthrightly (is that a word? ) asking for attention when I need it...and not using my anxiety and assocaited issues with that to get that false sense of security and reinforcement of my bad behavior.

Whew - this honesty thing is tough!

Off to be me...flaws and all,
Dawn

I know this is an old post but...I'm on #12 too. I wondered if anyone else get's something out of their anxiety? it's hard to be honest. I know I get out of, being responsible for things. I don't know how to say no to people. I have pulled away from so maney people in my life. I have made my "world" so small..by not letting anyone get close to me. It all goes back to expectations.
I hope some others will be honest and tell what they get out of having this. I'm not trying to be mean. I just wondered if anybody could re-late to what i'm saying.