This lesson was tuff but I think I have got it now .I was one of the tuffest but, I hope I can do this .It`s like Carolynn says it`s the door to the the life we all want.Can any one give any hints to how you handle people or places you have to go to. When you go to that place the stress in there is kinda tuff .It causes me to have a bad feeling when I go there I have to go there today. Help!!!! I hope some one can help me with this .

the mad face is not the face I wanted to put up .I am not mad I`m happy to finally get this lesson

Keep yourself relaxed. Breathe and repeat stuff to yourself the whole time like...

"I can handle this. ITs no biggie. I wont be here forever. I am calm. I am confident in my abilities to handle whatever I need to. I am safe. I am healthy."

Or whatever you need to hear.

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HOpe it goes well for you today.

Reena

thanks Reena your support helped I think I have to watch the amount of thought I think in a day .I went but, I will get better about this as I do it and keep on doing it .I think I need to do the relaxation tape more .

Hi Flowerlady! Lesson 12 is a tough one but a wonderful lesson on living! Reena's suggestions were very good and its amazing how just remembering to breathe and filling ourselves with positive thoughts can be the difference between being anxious and being peaceful. Listening to the relaxation tape can be such a help when going into situations that make us uncomfortable. It can remind you of how good it feels to be relaxed!

The thing that I got from Lesson 12 was the understanding that I didn't have to be perfect. We so often think that we have to handle each situation perfectly and can't show anyone that we might be uncomfortable with an event, person, or situation. Love yourself unconditionally. Embrace life -- no matter what it brings. And never stop challenging yourself. It's what makes life interesting and exciting! I hope you have a great weekend!

Hi Flowerlady-Along with all the positive thoughts I give myself permission to feel anxious as there are just some situations that can make us anxious and as long as one does not feed those thoughts internally the symptoms go away rather quickly. Best of Luck to You---Timber

I remember back when I first decided to take classes to get my license for home daycare.

I thought "well...I'll see how it goes. Maybe it will work out, maybe it wont, but I won't know until I try it out."

I went to the first class and I had many negative feelings at first and I did feel self-conscious. I even felt panic when they said for us to introduce ourselves by giving our name and tell why we wanted to do home daycare. I remember as it got closer to me, the rise in panic I felt. Immediately, as it was the girl right next to me, I had the thought..."JUST LEAVE..DO IT NOW.." My face became flush and numb and I didn't see too straight either, but somehow I told myself "NO!! I can do this" and blurted out my name when it was my turn. I even shared why I wanted to do daycare in my home. When it was over I felt a huge feeling of relief but I also felt good about myself that I did it.
The funny thing is that I don't even remember what I said to those people when I talked. I was able to talk while not even paying attention to my own words. LOL I don't think anyone noticed at all. That's the funniest part.

This experienced helped me to stay with this class and carry out my goal of getting my license. I even had fun with the other girls and we laughed alot learning CPR on the dolls.

I felt good about myself and this accomplishment.

This is what it's all about.

This tape is all about making choices for yourself, feeling the fear, doing your best and accepting that your best IS good enough.

It is through this that you gain self-esteem.

Hi Flower! Lesson 12 is a hard lesson but like all the others have said it's a life lesson and it will help you in the long run. I have, myself, just finally started getting out to work on my limitations. I was living in solitary in my house for about 5 MONTHS and it was miserable. Didn't go out for driving or anything. Now, finally, I have started going out again even though it is very hard. The first day, I tried it it was really tough. But I remember just to do things in baby steps or little incriments(sp?) as Lucinda says on the tapes. You can bring the tapes and flash cards with you when you go out and review them. I find that this really helps. The other day when I went out I listened to Lesson 12, and I found Lucinda's voice to be very soothing. Also keep using the relaxation tape. This also helps immensely. Other than that keep up the good work and remember the anxiety you feel before you do the things that are bothering you always seems to be ten times worse than the anxiety you experience doing the thing that scares you.

-Lexi-