This lesson has really been a tough one for me! I understand that I have secondary gains from my anxiety, but I am still afraid to change! How do I get past this?
Anybody have experience with this?

Ember

Are you afraid of change because then you will feel like you have to take on the world? Or do you feel others will put more on your shoulders than you are willing to do?Maybe working on being assertive can help you along with this lesson. Or maybe its fear of failure. Journal this out and see what it is you are really afraid of. There are many reasons behind our fear of change. Are you just having negative what ifs about things in general? All I really have is more questions but these are just questions to ask yourself and answer for yourself as well. I'm sure you'll find a way thru this too. Reena

Reena has said it well.Figure out what you think you are getting from not changing.It is a great idea to write them out and then work from there.If you can post a more generalized question--I guess what I'd like to know is 'what are you afraid of the most?'.I had problems in this area too.I can maybe help you.There are so many secondary gains.Hope to hear more from you.Take care for now.

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Tim