Before I started this course two weeks ago, I realized that in the prior two months that I experienced my father`s death, my mother getting breast cancer, job loss, my live-in girlfriend ripping me off and leaving one night after two years, and last but not least, my apartment was part of a fire that almost burnt down while I was awoken at 1:00am. These were all a bit stressfull, and it put in a deep depression. I have completed 12 lessons in less than two weeks and feel alot better. I start a new job tomorrow, and I just gave 30 days notice to move. I feel that exercising and church has also helped. I know when I start to feel sad that I am losing and that everything happens for a purpose. The mornings seem to be the hardest right now, but I am hoping by getting active and maybe getting sociable and finding a new girlfriend might help. Has anyone have any helpful and encouraging comments on how I should be approaching all of this. Thx..Pavolino

Slllooooowwwwwwww Doooooooowwwwwnnnnnnn! Give yourself a break! I think anyone would be depressed after going thru all that. Having goals (realistic goals) is good because it gives you a plan of action. You are doing good by exercising, having spirituality, and focusing on getting better. Just don't rush yourself. You need time to mourn your fathers passing. Time to mourn your lost relationship with your girlfriend. As long as you don't let your feelings scare you. Face things as best you can. Listen to the tapes again when you are done, only this time take it slower. It takes time to learn things. You can't do it overnight. I'm glad you posted and let us know how you are doing. We are here anytime! Reena

Ditto Reena!

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Originally posted by Reena:
Slllooooowwwwwwww Doooooooowwwwwnnnnnnn! Give yourself a break!

There is a reason to do the program one week at a time.

Reeeellaaaxxxxx!

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Don't take anything personally.
Always be impecable with your word.
Don't assume anything.
Always do your best!

I know that I appear to be wound a little tight; but I am trying my best. I recently called the support line and they told me to take on the course as much as I could absorb. It just so happened that I have had alot of time not working and all, and I seem to be able to do at least a lesson a day, do the relaxing tape twice per day and search for as much support that I can. I have found out that I am in the meantime of my life and that this course will help immensely with my turn around. I probably will do the course again slowly when I have time for reinforcement. Thank you all for your feedback. P

Pavolino,
I can relate to all of your stress. Take it easy and remember your feelings are normal.
You are going through alot of changes all at once. Take time for yourself! Get a massage and be kind to you.
Good luck! Mary

Remember, most of us have similar symptoms and personality traits, so when we make a suggestion it is from experience!

My suggestion for you is to try and walk, talk and type slowly this week. When someone asks you a question, look at them and say, "Let me think about that for a moment." Then, really take the time to think. This exercise helps you make decisions by how you "think" rather than how you "feel" about things. Many of us here base every decision on how we feel so this is very helpful. It will become a wonderful habit and you might be amazed at how it gives you time to think before you react....to anything, and help keep you from overextending yourself, too.

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Don't take anything personally.
Always be impecable with your word.
Don't assume anything.
Always do your best!

[This message has been edited by EastCobbGABetsyH (edited 03-08-2002).]