hi,

my family and i recently moved into a new home. we spent the last 2 years living in an apartment so moving into this new house in a beautiful development is so wonderful! before we moved in, we had it fixed just the way we wanted it too.

things couldn't be better but all of the sudden i feel depressed and confused about everything? i feel selfish and confused by these feelings when i am so fortunate to have so much!

i do know moving brings on allot of negative feelings/memories from the past. i'm really fighting those too. i also have been through allot of stress with moving, both mentally and physically. i had to push myself beyond my usual endurance.

i also notice my other family members seem to be struggling with this positive change too. that makes me feel bad and i want to make them feel better.

well, guess my question is if anyone else has experienced the same and when will i feel more "normal" again?

take care,

para

I think you sound so clear about what's going on. I also have had similar feelings of discomfort when moving. Changing our living environment can bring to the forefront lots of anxiety because we're in the realm of the unfamiliar. I would give it two weeks and I'll bet dollars to donuts that you'll be feeling better, and so will your family.
Congratulations on your new home.....

I agree with Capstone, you sound very clear about what is taking place. Change. It's hard. That's why not too many people do it. You have a right to be exhausted and a bit depressed. You are processing new experiences, old memories, an unfamiliar environment. It sounds all very normal to me, especially for us sensitive folks. We worry about others and their adjustment and happiness. You can be very proud of yourself right now for getting to this point. Support yourself through this and keep moving forward. Tomorrow is a new day bringing new experiences and feelings... and a stronger you. Moving is tough. Congrats on your accomplishment. I hope you and your family enjoy your new home.

Tammy

Thanks for the advice! Although I am not experiencing the same change in my life... I am experiencing the "unfamiliar" myself. This is the first time that all my 3 children are in school full time. I've been a stay-at-home mom for almost 11 years. I've always had a child at home with me and now my home is quiet for half the day and I'm not used to it yet. Many mothers rejoice when all their children are finally in school full time but not me, I miss them. Just the other day, I did my grocery shopping and Walmart shopping by myself for the first time ever ( I've never had to do it before) ! Boy was that wierd! No child to whine and no big brothers poking little sisters until they tattle. It was just me !!! I certainly feel like I'm going through some kind of transition. I must say though, that my shopping experience was nice ! I ran into many mothers that I knew and got to chat with some older ladies too.

Learning to be "alone" is strange and unfamiliar. Using the skills in this program helps to make life transitions easier and in the process we learn more about ourselves and our capabilities.

I just wanted to thank those that posted the positive encouragements because they also apply to my own personal experience.