Hi all,

Well, I'm really confused right now. I honestly think that I'm distracting myself from life with physical symptoms. Theres a lot going on in my life, but know what? I'm doing it. I'm not going to die, I'm not going to go crazy. I'm a normal human being that has anxiety, and right now, its a great distraction from life.

I don't want to overanalyze right now, because I know that will cause me greater stress. How about this? I am going through a lot of stuff right now, and I can't identify one single thing that scares me. But I know that there are multiple factors. I'm ok. It will work out. Soon, I will be able to sort it out. In the meantime, I'm going to use my relaxation tape. I'm going to review my cds, I did this one tonight. I'm going to take good care of my body, and my spirit. I'm going to pray, but not expect anything right away. I'm going to accept where I am right now, at this moment, and actually make the very best out of it I can. I've lost sight of my skills, but they're still there. I'm going to be ok. Life is going to be ok.

Most especially though, no overanalyzing! That is really what's holding me in this fear. I can't solve every problem right this very moment. I can keep going right now as things are, knowing that later I can adjust things so I like things better.

And I need to lower my expectations. Life is ok right now. I don't have to make sweeping broad changes in order to be 'happy'. Right now is a time to just take small steps in the direction I want to go.

I also need to distract...do something a little different, take a different walking path, go to an exercise class, try a new food, go to a new restaraunt.

There, I do feel better. My symptoms are better. Now, please pray that I can keep up my good thinking!

Thanks,

Deb

Hey Deb,
Praying for you!!! You're doing great, keep moving forward. Sounds like you have a much better grip on things than you give yourself credit for.
I just started going to an exercise program - every day!!! Big change for me and I look forward to it each morning. Might not sound like a big deal, but for me, it's awesome. Amazing how one change in my routine made such a huge difference!
Take care and here's sending you tons of hugs!!! with smiles.

keep up the positive talk deb. you are in my prayers. I've been getting negative and my husband is too. Our kids say we "feed" off each other, maybe they're right. Why is it so hard to stay positive. We can see it in others but not ourselves.

Hi Barb -

I know it's hard because we've been negative thinkers for a long time. How about making a pact between you and your husband to not complain and look at what you can do to make positive changes in any and all situations? What can I do to change my persepective? How can change this situation and if I can't change it how can I be accepting of my situation today?

You can do it. Practice, practice, practice...
Take Care,
Jill

Hi Deb,

I do the same thing!

It sounds like you're seeing your pattern and owning up to it, and that's a great place to start.

Gosh, it seems to me like you're really doing great with seeing what you need to do!! Good for you

Jeri

Hi guys,

Thanks for all the replies.

The one thing that helped the most...remembering I'm not going to die. With all that's been going on, that became my biggest fear. And I had the hardest time shaking it. Now I truly don't believe I'm going to die. That's an anxiety thought. So when it comes up I just say "I'm not going to die, I'm not going to pass out, or choke...its anxiety and I'll be ok." And its working. Its actually an answer to prayer.

Plus I've been so hit with small stressors lately...I really have had a hard time dealing with all of it, so I started feeling fatigued, and unhappy and a bit unloved. And that got me overanalyzing my life. I start wanting to make huge changes, but with no real strong reasoning behind it except I'm exhausted and overwhelmed and I don't know what I want. I panicked because of that. So thats why I've got to just back off, wait for the stressors to fade out and then just see whats left. Then I can make decisions. Now I need to cut myself some slack.

Thanks,

Deb