I continue to have obsessive thoughts that I am always going to be like this and not change. My dad keeps telling me that everyone has anxiety and you have to learn how to cope. Does anyone else have these negative, obsessive thoughts and how do you deal with them?
you are not alone. i am the same way, and one day, i think we will be normal. do u own the program? im on week 3 and feel better already. let me know if u need to talk. im here for u. My names Tiffany btw. but what ur having is a negative thought and right now, im going thru the same thing. I think it will get better tho, it didnt come to u overnight, therefor, itll take awhile to fix...just be patient..and smile!
Posts: 4 | Location: Washington state | Registered: December 11, 2008
If you are using the program it will teach you the skills to use to retrain how you think about almost everything in your life and use positive thoughts in place of all the negative and scary thoughts that you obsess over throughout the day. We are what we tell ourselves, we over think, lie to ourselves, have low self esteeem and so much mmore playing in our minds every minute of the day. Try so hard to be kind and thoughtfull towards yourself and ALWAYS achknowledge even the smallest accomplishments you make and reward yourself for those accomplishments because it will boost your mood and esteem. We tend to dwell on all that is wrong and not what is good and right about our life and especially ourselves.
Believe in you...live in each moment...love yoursel...ALWAYS!!!!!
Best wishes to you.
BELIEVE YOU CAN CONQUER ANYTHING~ AND YOU WILL !! I DID IT, YES !!!!!
Posts: 656 | Location: WHERE THE BLUE BIRDS SING | Registered: September 04, 2008
I can have negative thoughts also. I usually get a negative thought in my mind and think about it,play it over and over a hundred times for hours. It drives me crazy. By morning it seems to be better,my mind is clear and by that time it doesn't seem as bad as I had previously made it out to be.Even though nothing really changed except the way I perceived it.Nothing had changed,I just sleeped it off and got over it and then realized that I blew it out of proportion since I am a perfectionist and over anylize alot of things. The best thing that I have found to do is if you can catch yourself in the early stage tell yourself this will pass and that this is really not that big of an issue and then for me it helps to calm me down and not punish me for the rest of the day.
Posts: 9 | Location: Warrensburg,Mo. | Registered: November 01, 2008
I get them as well. I can't help when the come and they drive me nuts as well. What can we do to combat the thoughts from even happening? I am still trying to figure out why I get them and I feel so guilty I have them. Does anyone else feel the same guilt I do?
I GOT THEM IN THE SHOWER SO I TRIED A TECHNQUE I LEARNED YEARS AGA DISTRACTING. AFTER THINKING ABOUT WHAT I HAVE TO DO FOR THE DAY I KNOW LONGER HAVE THEM AN Y MI\ORE. THIS IS DAY 4 AND I DN'T EVEN THINK ABOUT IT. BUT, LAST NIGHT I TRIED THE SAME THING IN A RESTAURANT. T DIDN'T WORK. WHAT HAPPENED? DOES ANYBODY KNOW?
I'm new to the program, week 2, and I never thought I was a Negative thinker, but now I realize that I am. Wow, what a revelation. My main negative thoughts are about my sleep apnea and not waking up in the morning. I do use a cpap machine now, so I know deep down that I should be fine, but I still have these feelings especially right before bed. I'm going to start trying to say positive things, out loud, tonight before I go to bed and see if that helps. I'm also using the relaxation cd everynight when I go to bed. If I get up in the middle of the night to use the restrrom, I turn it back on before I get back in bed. It really helps alot too.
Ya I get those for sure. I feel like mine are a little different then everyone elses though. My negative/obsessive thoughts are always dwelling on something I have done in the past. For example I will need to speak in front of people and All I can think about is something I did that was stupid when I was younger (got drunk and made a fool of myself or something) and then I cant get it out of my head! needless to say The speech goes downhill (at least in my mind) from there. Can anyone relate?
I can relate mjp. I am going through the program for second time. I just started week 4. I recently began to have panic attacks after health concern, so pulled all the material out to start again.
On the obess. thinking I can relate. When something stessful is happening in my life my obsessive thinking kicks in especially about things from the past. I think its my perfectionism telling me I am never good enough or I should have done better or known better.
This evening when out doing errands driving I had thoughts from the past as in 20 + years ago when I was a kid, on vacation in Ireland, driving to fast to show off. I heard about it when I got home because this was a dangerous crossing for cattle. Well somehow my driving this evening triggered that memory and I was in the past obess. over what if someone stepped out on the road and I couldn't stop, what if it was a kid, what if we were in an accident and could have been killed due to my stupidity.
I kept practicing my breathing and the positive dialogue to distract myself. The key to overcoming this is to be kind and compassionate to yourself and letting the thought pass by without reacting. It is a alot easier said than done. We have to stop taking ourselves so seriously and overreacting to everything.
These skills do work you just have to be patient.
Good luck on your recovery. Take care and God Bless.
I know this from all the posts I have read about this particular subject.
Posts: 328 | Location: USA | Registered: December 13, 2007
Wow! I feel like I am in the baby stage with this program. I feel much better that when I started. I am past the crawling and into the standing stage, but still a little wobbly. I am excited about learning something new about myself and how to react to situations and other people. No-one has ever done that for me. I thought it was just a no-brainer, and everyone knows these things except. Just chatting online made me realize I was not the only one.
Pamela Blanding
Posts: 36 | Location: Wisconsin | Registered: December 08, 2008
Great stuff and really good advice. Im glad you can relate. Good luck to you as well and keep up the positive thinking!!
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Originally posted by bna: I can relate mjp. I am going through the program for second time. I just started week 4. I recently began to have panic attacks after health concern, so pulled all the material out to start again.
On the obess. thinking I can relate. When something stessful is happening in my life my obsessive thinking kicks in especially about things from the past. I think its my perfectionism telling me I am never good enough or I should have done better or known better.
This evening when out doing errands driving I had thoughts from the past as in 20 + years ago when I was a kid, on vacation in Ireland, driving to fast to show off. I heard about it when I got home because this was a dangerous crossing for cattle. Well somehow my driving this evening triggered that memory and I was in the past obess. over what if someone stepped out on the road and I couldn't stop, what if it was a kid, what if we were in an accident and could have been killed due to my stupidity.
I kept practicing my breathing and the positive dialogue to distract myself. The key to overcoming this is to be kind and compassionate to yourself and letting the thought pass by without reacting. It is a alot easier said than done. We have to stop taking ourselves so seriously and overreacting to everything.
These skills do work you just have to be patient.
Good luck on your recovery. Take care and God Bless.
I know this from all the posts I have read about this particular subject.
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