i have been with my boyfriend on and off for 4-5 years. we had ups and downs, goodtimes and bad. I am doing very well for myself. I fell apart for a while and picked myself up again with the help of family, friends and a lot of hard work on my own behalf.
The thing is I am back with the man I love but I realized that I have changed so much that I dont know to trust such a rocky relationship. He still drinks, not as much ...and he's doing well for the most part. But if he has one beer I freak out. He doesnt even have to be drunk to make me angry. I feel really contolling. i feel like maybe I shouldnt be so hard on him...like its not my place. I quit drinking because that was my personal decision. Do I have the right to tell him how to behave and what to do? I also feel the need to question his day to day activities, who he was with and what he was doing. I dont even feel right about it. What do I do? How do I accept him for who he is? and not this person that I am trying to mold him into. He is a great and loving person,very kind and great with my kid. I wish I knew how to relax a little and not make a mountain out of every molehill. Does anyone understand where I am comming from. I dont want to be such a B*#@h witch is what I am becomming

hi princess,
i know from experance what drinking can do to a person.if you don't drink as much as you used to. i meaning him then it would be not as bad for some but not good for others...i qit a long time ago..it was a personal decision as well. but i had help from above to be able to do it. was coming home after being stationed in germany.my last duty assignment before my last 3 yrs before i retired. i almost missed my flight because of the previous days drinking because i was leaving germany. now it makes no sense what ever..i know what you must be going through...i am against it as well. i know what it can do to a perso as well as a family...it seems like you are reaching out for help... its a touchy subject but someone has to stand up and be heard. take care and know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. GOD BLESS...
MERRY CHRISTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR..i think we were brought here to help others and if we did not or had not had anxiety or panic attacks...some would not have been able to talk to others about their problems and how to best solve them...thanks...
don