Hello all who have made it to Lesson 10!
Lucinda talks about the 2nd half of the tape having 12 empowering replacement thoughts. I was wondering where those are....I don't have them on my tape. Does anyone have any ideas. Please help....I am interested to hear them!!!

Not on my tape either

Nor mine!

You are right, the replacement thoughts aren't on the tape. Instead, they are written in the book in italics. On the first page of my lesson 10 there was a brief note in bold that said you could find it out page 10-9! It was confusing to me too because when I counted them there were 13 thoughts. But, I believe those are the thoughts Lucinda refers to!

Mine either. I seem to recall her stating they are not on the new tapes. That was from an older version. bummer, I was really looking forward to those also. Maybe we can all post what we've come up with ourselves?

Thanks everyone!
I thought I was missing something or my tape was miss-recorded. I like Brigitte's idea to post what we've come up with....so, if anyone has empowering thoughts to replace their negative thoughts, please share them here! It would be great to compile a list and learn from each other.....

I think it's a bummer that the Midwest Center didn't edit the tapes better. That's misleading and disappointing when one is paying so much for the program. it seems they'd catch that mishap...oh well. There's a lot the program does right, so I guess it's the way it goes (look at that positivity!) I couldn't help but vent for a second though....

I'm with you peacewithin!

Hey all!
I read the Lesson in the workbook and realized they have a complete explanation for why the empowering thoughts are not on the tape. I guess they want those thoughts to be in our own voice or the voice of someone who cares for us. I can see the logic. Sorry to drag you into my confusion. Thanks for the input!

Well I'll start first with the replacement thought. My favorite is the "so what if". I use that a lot when a "what if" comes up. Also, I use one from the blue cards which is. "it is never as bad as we think it will be" (or something like that). Also, "I've been through this before and survived, I will be okay"....and...."this car, store (insert whereever you are) is of no danger, there is no danger, the feelings are from the inside, not the outside which I have control over"...so there are a few I use. Hope to hear yours.

take care, B

It looks like everyone figured out where the replacement thoughts were and why we shuffled things a bit.

Just a reminder: the workbook is as important as the tapes. Be sure that you are using the workbook with each lesson.

Keep on the journey, Carolyn

Thanks for sharing Brigitte!

My most obsessive thought is that I am going to suffer a heart attack and not be anywhere near medical care (I had heart surgery last year at the age of 25 and have had catastrophic thoughts ever since-but they are getting better, and especially since the procedure cured my condition). I have been known to have the heart attack thought everywhere. Here are some replacement thoughts:

1. You are exercising and getting your heartrate up, it's supposed to beat faster. It was calm down when you are done and you will be fine. You've exercised for many years and are familiar with this feeling.

2. You are sitting in traffic and know that you could pull over at any time. You have your cell phone on you in the event there is ever a problem, but you have never had to be rescued because of panic. It's your mind having too much fun, but it will quiet down once I encourage it to do so.

3. You haven't sat in a restaurant for an extended period of time in a long time. It is nice to be able to be calm and enjoy a meal with a friend. Focus on the conversation and how great it is that you have taken the chance and faced your fear.

4. Is this thought rational, realistic, and reasonable? Describe what is happening in the present moment. "There is no danger. There is no stress. I am just sitting here being calm." I find focusing on the present moment diminishes the fight or flight response that wants to occur.

I know these are long, but my mind has to do it in paragraphs to believe it. I hope some of these individual sentences were helpful!

Any others want to share?

those were great.