Just wanted to share something personal for those interested. I have thoughts of feeling inadequate in social situations. I feel like I don't have anything interesting to say or that people will make fun. Ya know I just plain feel uncomfortable and obsess about my every move. So, I decided to do what linda talks about facing your fears. So, here I was about to go to a social gathering and incomes the obsessing negative racing thoughts. I stopped my self and wrote a little montra it goes like this: I am a loving kind person and people are attracted to me. People see my true self which is charming and playfull. I am interesting and articulate. People love being around me! These traits are easy fun and a natural part of my being. Life is wonderful!

Then I visualized the social event and acted out these traits. When at the social event I acted out the traits
and walah! I had a great time! The people I met enjoyed
my company emensly. I felt in control of my thoughts and
had fun. Of course I wasn't completly comfortable but I'm
learning something new so I have to be patient with
myself and remain somewhat detached.

Felt quite empowering!

Thank you Lucinda!

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