I have been having a lot of anxiety and depression with many scary thoughts. I don't know if this latest is just a scary thought or can it be possibly true.

Because of the depression it has been difficult experiencing any good feelings. I am married with two kids and have been obsessing over whether I love my wife or not.It is very scary to think that I don't love her anymore. It is scarying me to the point that I get anxiety when I try to get close to her.

Do you think this is just a scary thought? Has anyone experienced this before? This is really disturbing me.

Your opinions would be appreciated.

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Originally posted by hope:
I have been having a lot of anxiety and depression with many scary thoughts. I don't know if this latest is just a scary thought or can it be possibly true.

Because of the depression it has been difficult experiencing any good feelings. I am married with two kids and have been obsessing over whether I love my wife or not.It is very scary to think that I don't love her anymore. It is scarying me to the point that I get anxiety when I try to get close to her.

Do you think this is just a scary thought? Has anyone experienced this before? This is really disturbing me.

Your opinions would be appreciated.

I have also had these thoughts and it is scary. I do hope that someone replies to you as I am interested in what they say.

Would you mind answer a few questions? I'd like to respond, but I would like to know how many years you've been married and if you have the tapes and have used them yet.

If you are depressed (and I've been there) it's hard to love yourself. And when you don't love yourself, it's hard to love others.

Helen

Helen,

We have been married twelve years and has been a very close friendship/relationship. I don't want to abandon my kids but when I feel this way( No closeness to my wife) it really frightens me. I have always had in mind that we would be married til death.

I do have the tapes but have been stuck at lession 3 self talk.

I hope you can respond

Dena,

Thanks for the idea there are certainly many great memories. Its just that this damn depression doesn't allow me to feel the feelings.

Our counseler made a great observation. It's the commitment not the feelings that count in marriage. I hope this helps someone else.

Take Care.

Are you on any medication for the depression? That may help but maybe as stated, I believe it was in the workbook, that you need to open the gate and let the scary thoughts out and then physically feel yourself shutting the gate. I am going to work on that.

I don't quite agree with the counselor about the committment and the feelings in a marriage. How can you be committed if there are doubts about the feelings? I have been married for almost 36 yrs. and know that I need to work on opening and closing the gate.
Looks like we both have some work ahead of us but I am sure the rewards will be worth it.