What do you do if you are absolutely miserable in your marriage?

I'm going to go out on a limb here and say get a divorce?

I know this sounds really old fashioned and bizarre but I was raised where you work it out. I do still love him I just don't know whats going on. I think my anxiety has a lot to do with it.

I believe I am in a similar situation. I was raised also to work it out. I do know that my anxiety does have a great deal to do with it because I have expectations of him that he may never be able to meet and he is being the wonderful husband and father he knows to be. It's just not what I think he should be, or it is not enough for me.

If you really think your anxiety may have a lot to do with it, it just might.
My marriage is so much better now since completing the program. Wasn't miserable, but needed some help. A real eye opener for me.And hubby.
Give yourself the opportunity to really work on the program and practice all the lessons before you jump to anything.
You may be surprised, pleasantly.

I'm sorry to hear your marriage is miserable Corky 1. Have you tried marriage councelling? It's great to work out your marriage if you can for sure, but that only works if both of you are willing to give it your best shots. If you still love each other it's worth everything.I hope it will work out for you and your in my prayers.

Peace and Hugs

Get the book "The Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian. I actually have 2 copies cuz when I lost one, my daughter said you better buy another. I believe you can work it out because you have a heart to do so.

I relly think I need to work the program more. I am putting a lot of my issues onto my husband. I feel like I am always thinking of how I feel and not him. I had a really long talk with my therapist and I'm starting to see how much I am projecting my negativity. Trust me I'm not taking all the blame for him being a Jackass.LOL.

We have been doing Marriage counseling but, I sometimes feel like he doesn't take it seriously. He tells me that he is to old to change. I get angry because I feel like that is a cop out. He should have said that before we made a family.

I am really sorry that you are having so many problems with your husband. I too have the same problem with my husband. I feel like there is no support from him through this program. I know that I have a lot of problems that is why I am going through with this program. I just wish that he would help. I know that I can not control others only myself and the way that I react to things.

Ahh,,so I'm up to session 10. I'm sitting here wondering if the anxiety is because of the unhappy situation (you know, distracting myself from the problem I don't want to face) or is the anxiety making things look worse. Hmm. Sounds like I have alot of company...We have tried different counseling (counselors) over the past 8 years. It nevers ends successfully.. It's usually a decision that it's not helping...We've got 2 kids who love their Dad. I don't think I do. But, I know I'm in no position to take care of my 8 & 5 yo by myself. So, I stay stuck. We live like bro and sister really. I'm no longer attracted to him. He's gained alot of weight over the past 5 years and refuses to do anything about it. His Dad is near 300 pounds so he knows it's not healthy. We bicker alot, he has no patience with the kids and is lousy at discipline (thinking yelling is the only solution). I could go on but it wouldn't be productive. Sorry for running on. I've concluded I'm trying to take care of myself. I've carved out the time to exercise, do the program, etc. He is not happy with it but has no choice. I figure I can only change myself. I firmly believe he will either change in response or we will naturally separate. I simply can't take on the anxiety of a divorce or the anxiety it would cause my kids. They love their Dad very much and he loves them. He's not all bad but ..
Good luck to us all. It might be nice to keep in touch..