I've been trying to work through a scary obsessive thought right now. Trying to watch instead of react and accept instead of fight. But see im still scared. I was going through papers again and saw a note from the past where it says "i got those sexual sensations when my dad touched my thigh" My brain automatically says you shouldnt be feeling this way, What if u have sex with him. I think deep under im afraid what people think and most important, how inappropriate and gross this seems. I'm trying to talk myself through it but right now i just feel stuck. Accept the thought right? So what if I have relations with my father? This is just my ocd and an inappropriate thought at work. Maybe i was just over reacting and i am aware that's where the tension goes. It's no big deal. I can handle this.

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You got it Noelle! Just watch it and let it pass right by you.
Stick your tongue at it too...

Good job, Noelle - a thought is a thought is a thought. It is mechanical only. Don't judge them or rationalize. Thoughts make absolutely no sense at all.

You can even start talking back to them less and less. Just be the watcher of your thoughts. Nothing more is necessary to do. It's no big deal that you have these thoughts nor is it a big deal that you have sensations. So what?

Don't even resist being afraid. Soothe and comfort that inner child. "I can feel how afraid you are. It's OK. I will not abandon you. What you are afraid of is not real but it is certainly OK to feel the fear. It will pass." Emotions are in time so they must pass. Be patient. A great acronym for fear is "false evidence appearing real".

You're doing great!

Hey guys--

I'm kind of feeling scared right now. I mean the scary thoughts are feeling stronger more then usual. I've been telling myself its cuz I have my period and I know i am much more sensitive during this time, but then I watched a movie where they showed a girl's parts kinda and I get scared and those sexual thoughts started coming in again. Should I just say, Okay...I can see how anxious and scared I feel right now. It's okay. This is just part of my anxiety and I am are how much more sensitive I am feeling today. Okay, these thoughts are a possibility but it is unlikely to happen and I know myself well enough to know they are only thoughts.

Help?

Noelle, check out this website:
http://understanding_ocd.tripod.com/ocd_obsessions.html
it may help. I found it interesting and informative. I hope it helps, sweetie. Hang in there. You're going to be ok. as long as you have the desire and the will. I am sure you have plenty of both.

Thanks for the article, Sarah Anne. When I was reading one part of the article that described the symptoms I was like, "Whoa that's me!"

Today was a fairly good day. I am still getting those thoughts but i realize when I look under neath that it all goes back to the one big obsession I have. Now i just need to work on dealing with them instead of feeling scared.

When you talk back to your scary thoughts, do you ever just feel like you're just saying words and it's not really helping? That's how I feel a lot of times. Today, I think the ones that bother me most is a sexual thought I had about a little girl I saw or a pretty girl I saw on tv. I notice like it says on the tapes, one single object can strike the thought. The one guy said wood and something as simple as a skirt can set it off. Should i go with it and label it as nothing more then an obsession?

I feel those feelings when i looked at a picture of my friend in a very revealing halloween costume. I shouldn't be feeling like this. What if this means im gay and i will do something sexual with her?

Oh look here is that thought again. So what if I feel turned on by her? Everyone feels turned on by what a girl looks like. It's normal. This is just an obsession at work and it is okay to obsess about it right now. It is simply not based on me.

Is that ok for a replacement thought??

Hey all,

I have been doing good lately with my thoughts. Sometimes when they crept in lately, I felt them going away lesser because I laughed it off and it just felt like such a relief how I can get a hold of them. But then suddenly, feeling something and then feeling turned on made those thoughts come back and I need help grasping them. The what if I do this to a girl thoughts came back and then I think does this mean I will do it, Does this mean I like them?

I can see what this is again. This is just a thought and I am working on breaking this habit. This thought is a possibility but I'm not gonna worry about that right now. These fluids are part of being alive and human. They are supposed to be a major turn on. It's OK.


Is that a good coping statement?

I want to put Britney Spears in the list of my favorite music but I'm afraid. It goes back to when i watched her video and i got turned on. I shouldnt feel this way and i felt awful when i watched it over and over again. Cuz in my mind, this made me think of it whenever i got those sexual feelings. What if this means im gay or something?

What is this?
I can see this name just triggers the thought. The mentioning of that name lits the fire of obsessive thoughts.

I notice what this is and I will go with it. It's just a thought and it isn't based on me. So what if I got turned on? It is just my body reacting to what is in front of me. It's normal.

How is that?

That's good Noelle. Repeat the same thing each time you feel concern.

another: "I am a good and worthy person. I can choose the thoughts I dwell on. There is no emergency-chill."

Does anyone else have disturbing sexual dreams? Mine have a recurrent theme. Usually something awful like a sexual event when family members are standing nearby. Or someone forcing themself on me. Can be man or woman. Even family members. And no this is not something that's happened in real life.

Thanks for the advice, Carolyn. I will keep working on it

Hi Ms Anxiety

I suffer from exactly the same problem and its obsessive compulsive disorder, Mine started when i gave birth to my baby girl. I am now on Prozac and i have had CBT therapy which is bascially exposure to your fears. You're completely normal at first i thought i was mad and that people would think i'm a monster but you wouldn't believe how common it is. I think most people have unacceptable thoughts but they don't tell anyone and just shrug them off thinking what a silly thought but when you've got OCD you can't you think it means your like that and it actually means your the complete oppostie your just being over cautious,