I was asked if a good therapist could help find the event or situation that started his terrible self-loathing... my response:

Find a good therapist to help you with this journey...I call them "tour guides."

You might never find the exact moment of damage, but you will see patterns which will lead to insights. I have found that for most of us it wasn't one moment or event-it is a gradual repeating of comments/judgements that we eventually believed and wove into the tapestry that we carry inside.

You know, if you look at an old tapestry, you might see little holes and breaks in some threads but when you stand back and look at the whole thing - it's beautiful. You are a beautiful, unique person. Mend the holes or leave them but see the beauty.

Carolyn

hi carlyon, got your letter and do not really understand what u mean here ,buti did go to one of them and its to expensive and thats why i got the program andi can not think to e who would aks you to ask me that, so i hae the program and i also have God in my lifeso what more do i nedd hon, i to think you are a wonferful person too also i nee to let you knowi wwnet ot my profile and chage my nae from silverfox64 to my maiden name fori wnet on the chat this ,a and there were two silvers on ther one was me and the other one would not tell me who it wan so my maiden namei am ogin by now is Lynda Sue Mackey ,still have the ame e- mil and with that in the religion posts and all people are talking aobut one oerson do not know her name but all her mail is comming to me and hsould go to her ,theres a mix up here and can not figure it iur. .so please tellme why some one is juming me about theo theri have did nothing but try to help and be nice and all and yesi have lost my tem[per a time or two but we are aLL HUMAN TOO BUT THATS WILL NOT HAPPEN TO ME NO MORE FOR AS FOR MEI AM REALLY TRYING SO HARED OT CHAGEN THE OLD ME TO THE NEW ME BUT THANK YOU AND HAVE A GREAT DAY AND SO IF U ARE ON CHAT NOW AND U SEE lYNDA SUE MACKEY IT WILL BE ME(susie) JUST GOT TIRER OF CERTAIN PEOPLE USING ALL MY NICK NAMES AND ALL AND TRING TO GET ME IN TROUBLE SO THIS WAY I HOPE AND pRAY THAT ALL THIS LONSENCE WILL STOP NOW THATI HAVE MY REAL NAME ON HERE FOR ONLY ONE PERSON CAN HAVE ONE TRUE NAME RIGHT? OK HAVE A GOODO NE LOVE YOU,Lynda (susie) ps, i went back to look theu all my stuff that i got with my program too they are no card at all ni nithing that i got too thnaks .