hi everyone .
I am so sorry I havent been on here lately . I have had alot of things happen recently seems like I have no luck and the luck I do have is all bad .
here is what I have been threw . my daughter was watching a movie at her grandma's house and was laying down on the bed and got excited about something in the movie then jumped up and kicked outthe bedroom window putting her foot clean threw it ,, cutting her in many places on her right foot . and then cutting almost half her small toe off . so we took her to the ER and you all now I cant handle ER's and DR'S well I didnt take it that well she had to have stitches and it just made me cry I then left her dad in the room with her and her grandma .
I went to the car to try and calm down some I was flipping out . bad panic attacks okay thats my mom of the year let down #1 here is another she went to schoolon the 3rd day of school the nurse at the school calls me and says your daughter is having several severe panic attacks . so they told me to talk to her on the phone to calm her down . so I tryed well that didnt work she was really worked up and begging me to come get her .
the nurse at the school said you CANT well there I went threw my massave panic attack .
so I called her dr up to see if I can get her in and see her but they said she was full and had to go see another dr for urgent care that was in the office that dont know hide or hair of her or about her . anyways with me being so worked up her grandma took her to the dr office just as I was calming down . the phone rang and it was her urgent care dr. he said mrs. luckett I have your daughter here and I cant believe how much of a 17 yr old she acts like she is only 9 . her panic attacks exculate to about a 17 yr old girls that is in jounior or senior year ., I was like WOW now tellme what I can do. He said to me you have done enought ..
I just sat there in the chair and thought what dose he mean ?
so I asked him he said that she in no doubt in his mind has a bad panic disorder but feeds it more and more off of me . I said how do you get that beings if I am having one I just go outside to another rom or something he said youknow what I mean I said no i do not . he said that you and your daughter talk to much about your panic ... ummm N0 we do not he is so wrong there .
and he said she is getting worse because of me . i said well the only time we talk is when she says mommy what do u do to help calm down .. and we then talk about breathing etc.. he said dont lie to me I know you guys talk about it often . and heres what im going to do Iam going to tell you that you need to stay away from her if she is home I have to be in another room . I said but she confinds in me and looks for me to help her he said that get this IM KILLING HER if she goes threw this more than a few months to couple years without it helping her then I will find her dead somewhere ..
oh my god my heart hit the floor and said why are you saying this to me and telling me what i do and dont do with my daughter , he said because you need to be locked up in a nut word and dont diserve to see your daughter beccause u are the one making her be this way .. he said there is no carring of geans in this issue it all you and she is picking up on all of it there had nothing to dop with genetics.
I find that hard to believe . so anyways he said if she so much as misses an appt or school without great reason then he will call children services on me and have my 9 yr old taken away same if he dose blood tests on her and finds she isnt taking her meds then he will call . I am and then also was flippin scared so badly . I dont think she gets all this from me or dose she ????
she was dignosed with seperation anxiety and anxiety at age 4 .. now she is 9 ..
so she was already on 25mg zoloft and now is also on zoloft still with 2.5 mg zyprexa . as you can see I have been a mess any advice anyone . thanks for listening and reading this .. the DR. is now saying she is learning this behavior from me she is now with 3 therapist and 2 dr's .. I am to the point where its scaring me by the way she thinks and feels . i can say that I fear for her and I both .in the fight of not getting better. but I will always hold my faith .
My daughter refuses to go to school and admits to me that she is trying to get into trouble at school because she wants to be home with me and that when she is at school she dont feel well most of the day . and the school isnt willing to help me with this issue they just want me to forget it even occured or maybe they just dont understand about panic and seperation anxiety .. they said if I dont get her taken care of soon that she will be to out of control . She checks up on me if she goes to stay with her grandma witch used to be for the weekend but now is only 1 night and back home in the morning .. she calls me about 15 times that night and then cryes to come home so sometimes I have to go get her also .. im just a mess.. she is scared of everything now thinking its going to kill her like example pencil lead .. and paper clips .. super glue anything electric etc small things .. PLEASE HELP ANY SUGGESTIONS ?

Hi there. SOunds like you are having a hard time. Do you have the program? I feel that your daughter is picking up signals from you and I agree with the doctor, this is not healthy for her. You need to please try ad get some help for your anxiety. For a child to have to be on meds at her age is scary also. These drugs at such a young age is proven to be bad. There are so many ways of making this better and it starts with you.

wow, i'm very sorry you all are having a hard time but, i do not feel it is fair to place all the blame on you!You should let your daughter know 1.She is not dieing and she is going to be ok and so are you.this will calm here.2.if you don't have the progrm get it.It does help 3.maybe eat lunch with her at school this will give her something to look forwad to and tell her if she crys when you go to leave you will not come the next day.Slowly go down to once a week and that might help her at school.The chat room is a wonderful place to go for advice.Check into some books at your library for you to get educated on how to help a child at her age.Be strong it will get better it always does eventually does right?! hope this helps

Your daughter needs to know that you are okay. If you do not have the program, recommend you get it. Your daughter needs all the stable influences in her life that you can provide. The Dr. was not very kind, but has the duty to act on what he/she believes is in the best interest of your child. The little girl needs to be placed first in this situation.
You can do a lot to help. Let your daughter see that you have help and support and that your own problem is under control - always. If you believe that this can be solved, it will. You can do it, have faith!

My heart goes out to both you and your daughter. How awful for a little girl to be suffering so much. I had my first panic attack when I was 8 years old, and I learned all of my negative behaviour and catostrauphic thinking from my mother.

So I do agree with your doctor, and he has to put your daughter's well-being first. You're not intentionally harming her, but you are harming her none-the-less. As a mother, I know how painful that is to hear. But I also know that you would do anything for your daughter. So, turn this thing around. Instead of getting defensive with your doctor, work with him. Talk to him and tell him that you'll do whatever it takes to get your daughter and yourself healthy. Let him put the two of you in some program or therapy. I don't think Lucinda's program alone is enough for your situation - not when there's a child so young involved.

I also don't think drugging this child up so much at such a young age is healthy or the best treatment. So find someone who specializes in treating anxiety disorder in children... have your doctor recommend someone.

Look, you're not a bad person and you're going through hell with panic disorder - I get that - I go through it too. But children learn what they live, and when a smart, sensitive little girl lives with a mother who is wracked with debilitating anxiety, she IS going to pick up on it whether or not you go into the other room when you're having a panic attack.

So get your daughter some real and immediate help, and get her mother some real and immediate help too. You're the adult so you be the leader. Be a positive example to her by showing her that yes people do have problems, and that's okay it's nothing to be ashamed of, but they can do something to overcome these problems.

I will pray for your little girl. And for you.

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Originally posted by lilaclady:
Hi there. SOunds like you are having a hard time. Do you have the program? I feel that your daughter is picking up signals from you and I agree with the doctor, this is not healthy for her. You need to please try ad get some help for your anxiety. For a child to have to be on meds at her age is scary also. These drugs at such a young age is proven to be bad. There are so many ways of making this better and it starts with you.

I AGREE WITH YOU I AM DOING MY BEST TO START WITH MY ANXIETY BUT YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT SOME OF THE DR.S SAY THAT SHE IS DOING ALOT OF THIS FOR ATTENTION BUT IM NOT SO SURE OF THAT MYSELF AND I DO HAVE THE PROGRAM AND I AM WORKING ON IT IM EVEN DOING SELF ESTEEM TALK AND GOOD THOUGHTS WITH HER AND LETTING HER KNOW SHE IS GOING TO BE FINE THANKS FOR POSTING .

THANK YOU ALL FOR THE POSTS I WILL TAKE ALL THE ADVICE YOU GIVEN ME AND USE IT TO THE BEST OF MY ABIOLITY . I ALSO BELIEVE THAT THE MEDS ARE NOT HELPING HER AND THE DR SHE HAS NOW HAS HELPED MANY CHILDREN WITH THIS DISORDER ,. HE SUGGEST THAT THE MEDS ARE NEEDED ...
BUT I DISAGREE I WILL NEVER GIVE UP AND WILL ALWAYS TAKE CARE OF MY DAUGHTER I WISH THAT I COULD GO BACK IN TIME AND JUST CHANGE THINGS ..BUT WE ALL WISH THAT AND CANT SO I WILL DEAL WITH THE PROBLEM AT HAND .. THANKS AGAIN ..

Christina, I have a question. When you say your daughter kicked out the window, how did she do this? Was she that close to a window and put her foot accidentally through it when she got excited by whatever happened in the movie? Or did she get up and start kicking the window?

The reason I ask this is that if she started purposely kicking the window, maybe she's been misdiagnosed? I'm not trying to scare you here, just wondering how the putting her foot through the window actually happened. Anxiety can be a symptom of other things.