I wll be having my baby next month, October 27th. But as you know more than half of women deliver their babies sooner. I have had severe anxiety and now that time is closer, it has came back more. When I feel anxiety I feel like I am gonna die and I have craziest thoughts ever. I am trying to overcome this on my own. I do not take any medicine but. Can anyone relate? I am a mother to a 9 month old and will have another baby next month. It is very tough at times. Any supportive advice will help. Often I feel like I am not here or I will disappear and I think negative thoughts. I am trying my hardest to overcome this with positive talking to myself and prayer. Please pray for me.

Although I cannot relate to the pregnancy part, I can definitely relate to your feelings of feeling "like you are not here or will disappear" and thinking negative thoughts. Those feelings are so scary! Try to remember that "this too shall pass" when you are in those moments. Good luck to you and hang in there.

yes it is very scary. and good luck to you as well. We will overcome this and be an even stronger person from have going through this.

i HOPE i CAN GIVE YOU SOME WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT. I AM PREGNANT 19 WEEKS NOW. I ALSO HAVE ANXIETY AND I OBSESSIVLY THING DISTURBING THOUGHTS. I LEARNED SOMETHING A WHILE BACK THAT IS HELPING ME. WE ARE NORMAL(NO MATTER) HOW CRAZY THE THOUGHTS MAY BE.I KNOW INSIDE YOU SAY NORMAL PEOPLE DONT THINK THIS WAY. BUT I AM HERE TO TELL YOU THAT THEY DO.ITS JUST THAT BEING SUCH INTELLIGENT PEOPLE SUCH AS OURSELVES WE FEEL GUILTY FOR HAVING THEM. WE ARE FAR MORE SENSITIVE THAN MOST PEOPLE EVER COULD BE. REMEMBER THAT THESE THOUGHTS ARE NORMAL, THEY ARE JUST NOT VOCALIZED BY OTHERS. YOU NEED TO DESENSITIZE THESE THOUGHTS. I KNOW ITS HARD. I MYSELF AM JUST LEARNING HOW TO DO IT. I FEARED HURTING PEOPLE. THIS SCARED ME ALOT. BUT BEING SO SCARED OF THE THOUGHT MADE ME REALIZE THAT ITS NOT SOMETHING I WOULD EVER DO. THE GUILT FROM THE (THOUGHT) ALONE ALMOST KILLED ME. YOU NEED POSITIVE SELF TALK. GO FOR A WALK, TALK TO SOMEONE. I KNOW HOW DISTANT THIS DISORDER MAKES YOU FEEL BUT YOU'LL ALWAYS HAVE A FRIEND IN ME. I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. AND THERES NOTHING THAT YOU HAVE THOUGHT THAT I HAVENT ALREADY THOUGHT OF MYSELF. CALL ME CRAZY BUT I CAN ALMOST GUARENTEE IT. I AM HAVING A TIME TIME THIS PREGNANCY BECAUSE OF OTHER THINGS GOING ON IN MY LIFE. ITS HARD TO NOT GIVE UP. BUT WITH POSITIVE SELF TALK AND KNOWING I HAVE THE ABILITY TO MAKE CHOICES AND CHANGES IF NEED ARE HELPING ME. AS FOR THE DELIVERY....GOOD LUCK. DONT WORRY ABOUT THE LABOR YOU DID IT 9 MONTHS AGO AND YOU'LL DO FINE AGAIN. ITS A NATURAL INSTINCT IN WOMEN THAT WAS AROUNG LONG BEFORE YOU AND I WERE BORN. YOU WILL KNOW WHAT TO DO.ITS BEEN 7 YEARS FOR ME....AM I NERVOUS? OF COURSE I AM, WILL I BE FINE? OF COURSE I WILL
AND YOU WILL TOO.
-TAMMY

hello, well i dont know what is to be pregnant but i want it sooo bad!!i am 27 and suffer from panic attacks since i was 16 i been better much better with the program and thanks to GOD!! you will be fine dont worry like tammy said u did u nine months ago and you will do it again dont stress dont be scared!! you guys are an inspiration for me !! because sometimes i think i wont be able to be pregnant!! but i have hope!! thanks i will pray for you!! good luck remember nothing is stronger than god!! nothing!!!

khabirov,

I really think that as women our hormones affect the whole anxiety thing. I am on the other side of the spectrum, and my anxiety has worsened with menopause---I didnt wake up at night with anxiety until I began having hot flashes.

Also remember that it takes a couple of years for a woman's hormones to totally stabilize after a pregnancy and you haven't had that time to stabilize totally.

What I'm saying is to try to remember that "this too will pass" and also that of course you're anxious--you're about to have a baby and your hormones are out of whack. I support you and will keep you in my prayers.


I just saw that you joined September 8th--do you have the program? I think that the breathing and techniques in session 2 could be a big help to you. They are to me.

HI
I am the mther of 4 grown children they were born in 1979,1980,1981, and 1985 so I understand the anxiety of having babies close together. I was on the other end of the spectrum I did not have any anxiety when I was pregnant because if you think about it you get to see the dr every few months then every week then the follwo up care, it seemed odd to me but i felt so reassured that all was fine since I had a DR checking me all fo the time and saying how great things were.
I used to disassociate alot, I could be sitting in a room full of people and not have a clue what had been going on or been said in my mind's eye I was sitting oon a beach sipping a margarita with a fine tanned man making sure I had everything I needed. It was pleasent then bam reality came back. I was told this was my mind way of relaxing when it had had to much.
Babies and children can be overwhelming, try to think of the joys, the fun and the uncondional love those baby smiles will bring to you and warm your hart. I understand it is easier said than done, I know you can do it!

Stephanie,
I am new to this anxiety self help thing. I was browsing around and felt the need to respond to yours. I hope you are feeling ok. Are you atleast taking prenatel vitamins? I recall feeling my BEST was when I was pregnant. I believe it was because of the Prenatels I was taking. I believe it helped "balance out things"
I think vitamins are essential for us to get well and stay well.May God bless you and when I get off here I am going to pray for you.

I have had anxiety for about 6 years now and i know how u feel about being pregnant and anxious. i have actually had my worst anxiety attacks and my anxiety has been the most consuming while i was pregnant. i have a daughter who it 23 months.. and am due to have a baby november 8th. my main anxiety issue is feeling like i cant breathe all day eveyrday, i constantly obsess about it. and i feel like im just going to stop breathing. and being pregnant with my hormones going crazy and a baby pushing on my lungs makes things worse. i had the same problem last time i was pregnant and it seemed to just kind of go away once i had my daughter. it was probably the change in hormones and the distraction of having a new demanding baby. the combination of anxiety and hormones is AWFUL.. if i can help in anyway let me know im sure were going through some of the same things seeing as how our due dates are less then 2 weeks apart.

Thanks to everyone for being supportive. Ya'lls advice helps me to feel better but I think I will have to be told everyday that things will be okay. This anxiety just gets real bad. I do take prenatel vitamins and have the whole time. I even take calcium chews and sometimes a vitamin b-12. I hear that vitamin b are great for stress. I think that when I have this baby that things will be much better. I don't know how I deal with this at times but I guess I am very strong. It usually gets worse at night. I do much self talk and it does help. I wish that everytime I felt cbad that I could see a doctor but I know it is just the anxiety. I am due next month and that is probley why I am getting more of this anxiety. I talked to a nurse and she assured me that everything will go well with my labor and that it will be even better than the first time. That helped me feel a lot better. For some of you who are understanding me on this anxiety with being pregnant thing, what are some of the feelings and ways you feel that scare you. Mabye if I see that other people get the same way that I do then I will feel even better. Good luck to all of you and thanks for the encouragement.

Some of the scary feelings i get being pregnant are when im laying down at night if i lay in certain positions i will all the sudden get short of breath from the way things are pushing. i actually lay on my side with one arm up under my head and the other one stretched up to expand my torso and it seems to help me feel like i can get some deep breaths without getting up and wound up again. Theres so many other little feelings though that i get.. just all the sudden feeling really sick, or my legs getting weak, or shooting back and leg pains. And these normal pains always seem to come at the worse times like when i am already having anxiety so i amplify it. What kind of feelings are u having?

hi! I just wanted to tell you i have been there done that with the pregnant and panic attacks! I have five children 4 boys and 1 girl they are 9,6,5,4 and 13 months. So they r very close together. I had severe anxiety with the last four! I had horrible thoughts! Like maybe I'll hurt one of them or maybe i cant handle it maybe ill die then who's gonna take care of them but you know what none of that happened im still here it was all anxiety! so hang in there take it easy dont try to be super mom or none of that take care of your self and you'll see over time you will feel a lot better!

I can definately relate with you I had anxiety while I was pregnant as well. My son is now four years old but it was tough. I think the main thing that made me stress was the labor its self. The only thing that kept me sane when I was pregnant was my babies health. I didnt wantt he negative stresses from me to affect him. I also took alot of baths and got massages. Exercise is very good too just try to keep your mind busy. You should be so proud though you have made it this far and havent taken any medicine or anything. I think the best thing to tell yourself is that you made it this far you will make itthe rest of the way. I tell myself that everyday and it seems to work. I know that they say anxiety is a chemical inablance in the brain, but I honestly believe that it is also a hormone inbalance, and a s soon as you have that baby you will be so overwhelmed with joy, and so busy you will completely forget about all this anxiety. Good luck to you and your baby I will be praying for you. You can do this. We will over come this.

Sometimes when I lay on my back I start feeling like I can't breath, so I try to sleep or lay on my sides. A couple months ago almost everyday I went through each day thinking I wasn't breathing and it would make me have severe panik attacks. I thought that the later in my pregnancy I got that it would only get worse. But it has only got better. I will take deep breaths and if Istart feeling as if I can't breath, I tell myself if I really couldn't breath I would have already passed out. Anything I can tell myself to calm myself down, I try that. Some of the feelings I feel inside is that I am going to die and I feel so scared inside when I get like this and I have even thought about dieing during labor. But a nurse assured me that I wasn't going to die so it made me feel better. I started my anxiety when I first got pregnant so mabye this will go away when I have this baby. Because I guess what im axious about is the labor and this pregnancy. I want to feel free again and I think I will when I am not growing something inside me. I think that I have went through so many of these panik attacks that I have learned now how to SOMETIMES prevent the full blown panik attack and I just feel real bad and like im going to die or something and I feel like im new at life, and it's like im trying to figure it out. It scares me thinking of how everything is able to be seen and that we are even here and just crazy things like that and it makes me feel scared and ver y uncomfortable. But I know I will get better so I don't give up hope. Sometimes I feel fine but then it will hit me sometime during the day. It never fails. Thanks to all of you who share this with me. It really makes me feel better and more secure about labor.