My husband and 3 yo are PEAS IN A POD! They look and act just alike! The are both strong willed, incredibly determined to get what they want and very dependant. I'm a work at home mom and my 3 yo is clingy and difficult to deal with. He is a huge source of stress for me. I love him dearly. However I deal with feelings of guilt because sometimes I just don't like him much. I also have an 11 yo from a previous marriage who is just like me. We are both artistic, (admittedly) absent minded, and very independant. My inlaws over indulge my 3 yo and we are in constant conflict on how to raise him. Second, my husband and I are usually on the same page on the 3 yo, but to me there are obvious differences in the way my 11 yo is treated (in relation to my 3 yo.)by both my husband and his parents. Any advice on dealing with the inlaws? And how can I make my husband see that he DOES treat the kids different?

backncontrol
I dont understand why Husbands seem to have more of a problem with this. My son has One biological daughter and One biological son. Both by different wives. The third child isnt in any way his. And he does treat her differently. Its really a shame, cause as a grandparent to all three of these children, my husband and I love all three, regardless!
The longer his now wife and all three of these children are together, its slowly getting better. But, it has taken alot of time. His wife is a great mother and loves all three children as her own.
Ive told my son, many times, You knew she had a daughter when you married her. You love that daughter just like you love HER! He is starting to really get more involved with her and the rest of the children. Its important in any marriage for both parents to realize these are children and they do notice stuff like this. Maybe have a long talk with your husband, no blaming, just talking about how it disrupts the whole household when you dont back each other up. take care Nelly