Hi everyone:

I have a question. I am trying hard to practice these skills. I want so desperately to get better. I've had anxiety over 20years now. I want to get better not only for me but my 6 year old daughter. I've had to leave situations with her abruptly. I've told her I need to leave sometimes because I get sick. She's at the age where she's going to a lot of activities which causes me a lot of anxiety sometimes. I'm trying to use my skills. My question is this "How do you practice talking positively to yourself, practice breathing and practice acceptance etc. when you are out with your child"? She being 6 demands your attention. I find it difficult concentrating on doing what I need to do for myself and paying attention to her. Any suggestions as to how you deal with this would be appreciated.

Carol

Try to work on other skills, dont limit yourself to breathing tech.. Try to let the anxiety flow and play with your children or get involves with children sometimes it can help your anxiety by distract yourself being playful or keep yourself busy with child. Tell yourself its just an anxiety it will pass.. Try distract yourself try not to think about anxiety.

Sometimes children can be helpful for your anxiety!

I dont have child of my own, but i babysit a kid, sometimes I had anxiety I just to to ignore it and play with the kid, I forgot all about my anxiety. It is because I distract myself away from anxiety.

It is a matter of what is important to you. If you have to stop what you are both doing so you can attend to your anxiety, you are sending yourself (and perhaps your daughter) the message that you will do whatever, whenever to get better. You are as important as your daughter. Feeling like everyone comes before you and your needs is what got you into anxiety in the first place.