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quote: Originally posted by catspurr:
[qb]have learned that my daughter is having a tougher time than she lets on in her life. Has gotten herself into a bit of a pickle with nowhere to turn so to speak. The good part is that she is finally seeing that the aspects of her personality that caused problems when she was still at home weren't all my fault after all. She is starting to see things about herslef that need work. It will be interesting to see how she goes about resolving the issues. One thing is for sure. She isn't coming back under my roof. Not without some heavy overhauling. Question is, how do you help a child who does nothing but try to control the life of the family they left behind?[/qb]
I'm confused about your question because I've never heard of a child that moved out trying to control the family left behind. I know that adult children might try to advice elderly parents who are no longer able to take proper care of themselves. Or thinking about it a daughter might try to tell her mom what to do in her own life. Is that what you mean? Writer Bruce Baldwin notes that such youths �grow up with expectations .�.�. that the good life will always be available for the asking whether they develop personal accountability and achievement motivation or not.� But they �suffer a rude awakening when they leave home..." I'm happy to hear that she is starting to look inward at herself. That's a good begining. I know that regardless of age- even adult children should respect their parents whether they believe as they do or not on different things. Whether the mother has anxiety or not. When the child shows the parent respect just for their being a parent than communication is hopefully open. Hopefully she will open up to you while respecting you as her parent. You are a caring person and I can understand that it may hurt. I hope things work out for you. Victoria |
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