I am a 23 and i feel like i am dieing inside becuse of my anxiety. I have a girlfriend that i love so much we have been going out for 6 years but i feel she needs more thin i can give her i can't take her out and it is killing me inside


can some one help me i would really like that thanks

I am a man that had anxiety and panic attacks for as long as I can remember. Many times I felt like I was dying taring apart inside. I am a married man.

What counts is that you love your girlfriend. Anxiety and panics seem so very hard. Anxiety and panics all they are is just feelings. I am sure she knows that you love her.

As you are part of this program and chat room you will find many wonderful people that can help you through it. I feel my anxiety panics slowing down. Please hang in there. Things really do get better.

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Originally posted by Grant jr.:
I am a 23 and i feel like i am dieing inside becuse of my anxiety.

Grant, at about your age, I too had horrific problems with anxiety and panic. I too had someone who I had been with (actually, married to) for six years, and felt that my anxiety was sucking the life out of her as well as out of me. It took several years for me to be able to overcome the anxiety to the point that I could do the things that we had once enjoyed doing...BUT (a biiig BUT), at the time I had no idea what was going on with me. You at least are smart enough to have recognized that you have a problem and have identified that problem...and armed with that knowledge, you CAN overcome this and do things that you would never believe possible at this moment. I don't know whether you are using the program or not, but I do know that after learning all the things over a period of several years from therapists, licensed counselors, and psychiatrists that this program contains, you are way ahead of the curve with the package. Keep up the faith...you WILL get there.

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I have a girlfriend that i love so much we have been going out for 6 years but i feel she needs more thin i can give her i can't take her out and it is killing me inside.

Learn the coping mechanisms...live them daily with almost religious fervor...incorporate them into your life. You will then be able to give the lady you love what she deserves from you. First, though, you must be able to give YOU what you deserve.

For what it's worth, the lady that I married at seventeen is still with me, going through some new physical things with me that deeply trouble me too, but is still solidly by my side these thirty years later.

Congratulations on knowing that you need help. I am currently separated from my husband because he didn't want to be as unhapppy for the next 10 years as he was for the previous 10. He tried to talk to me about the way I was acting and I tried to talk to him about the way I was feeling. The problem was that neither of us were actually listening to each other. Now I am living alone and trying to finish school, but at least I am trying to change. I see so much of him in these descriptions that I want to get him to work on this with me, unfortuanately that won't happen. You see while I have taken on the task of trying to fix my problems he has substituted someone else for me. He said that he wanted to see if he could live on his own. That worked for about 3 days. He now has a younger woman living with him. He says that nothing was going on before I moved out but.. He says that her relationship with her boyfriend was dangerous and he moved her in so quickly because her life was in danger. I think that he is running away from his own problems and won't get anywhere this way. I am doing ok on my own. I still get really stressed out, and in the back of my mind I hope that things will eventually work out between us but that is what is causing most of my anxiety.

hey,
Im sorry your sad and feel bad. But dont beat yourself up too much, you dont want to be like this. I think its very sweet that you love your girlfriend so much, shes lucky. Maybe start by baby steps, just go to a park where your around people but dont have to actually talk or interact with them, thats what my counselor suggested to me. I feel bad because I am a single mom to a 14 month old little girl and dont socialize with people who have kids and I feel like she deserves a mom who is outgoing and she needs interaction with other kids. So i guess we both should take baby steps and be kind to ourselves.

Grant - I highly recommend the program if you are not on it, yet. The tools will help you so much. I wish I had them when I was your age. There really is hope. You may need meds as well as the program. A lot of people do and there is nothing wrong with that. Talk to your physician and get the help you so richly deserve. Learn to be happy and accepting.

Blessings.