Hi everyone i am new here. I hate to vent but i really need to i am glad i found this site. First let me start off by saying my name is Nicole and i have a daughter and a son.

My daughter is just about 2 years and my son is 8 1/2 months. My daughter has always been easy-going from the beginning she cried but was an easy baby. She now has special needs cause we think she may have autism but she is getting better by therapy and the help i am giving her and my hubby is helping out too. She hardly ever has tantrums she is always cooperative. i don't have much stress with her.

My son on the other hand is totally different. he has been a screamer from day 1. I love him a lot but i am ready to pull my hair out. he is headstrong, sensitive, and screams when something is bothering him it doesn't matter how little or big it is. When he was smaller he screamed when we took him to the zoo the bird was chirping and he stopped drinking his bottle to scream and he did that with church we always had to leave nothing made him happy. Now that he's older he won't eat any solids only cereal and gags on that and when he gags he screams, he would rather pay attention to the toys on the floor and not me trying to feed him the cereal. we go to feed him his bottle when he was younger he always moved his head around back and forth up and down looking at everything now he just tries to roll over while drinking and that stopped thank goodness. When he was a little smaller about a month ago we had him in bouncy seat we did everything we could for him and he was screaming i put him in other room for a second and he threw him-self out of the seat while being strapped in and his head was on the floor he scared me so bad thankfully he was ok he scratched his head too cause there was nothing on the floor that could have scratched him. of course no more bouncy seat. When we go to eat he screams bad we never enjoy ourselves. then when he get's flu shot he doesnt cry and he poops there are times he doesn't cry. but we meet all his needs and he screams i put him in his crib for a few and he's squealing happy, why would he want to be by himself so much it always happens. my mom i told her about my anxiety PPD and since then she treats my son better then my daughter she wont even kiss my daughter. There is always an excuse for my son's crying but my daughter cries and just let her go. But my son makes a peep and she picks him right up. She never tells my kids she loves them. i am sick of family i don't have them in my life but they see the kids. this morning i was real dizzy and nausea and it went away and when i went out tonight by myself i was fine so probably due to stress. I am a stay at home mom. when my son screams my heart pounds and i shake. i went to the doc and i am on ativan for anxiety. My hubby does help me with the baby so i have lots of help there. My sis-in-law calls children services on us cause they threatened it before they called then we said you can't see kids cause you threaten children services for no reason, then so they go and call and they are never to see the kids.children services saw we are good parents we are clean and take good care of our kids. Well my mother in -law sees the kids and when she talks to my hubby she says your sis didnt do anything wrong she blames her hubby and they turn it all on me as to why her daughter don't see the kids. I hate my life sometimes. anyway sorry to go on i just needed to get it out and maybe someone can relate to me. I am glad to have found this site.

Hi Momoftwo,

I am glad you found the site. Having very young children can be very stressful. It is wonderful that your husband is helpful. I am sorry that you dont have the support of the family. That can make things even more difficult. Have you talked to your son's doctor about how he is? And ask him if he can help you? Some kids are just much more sensitive than others. My first child, a son, was very sensitive. Sometimes we need to quiet down the house and try to minimize the stress that they are getting. Their little nervous systems are just not very mature and may not be able to handle much noise from tv's or radios or whatever. Too many toys around can be stressful as that can give them a feeling of chaos. Some kids just thrive in a non-cluttered surrounding and having a regular routine. I would get some books on parenting. Maybe you can ask your pastor or a friend if they have any recommendations. Or just check some out from the library and you decide which would be helpful to your family. Babies dont come with manuals and I wish they did! Its good to get things out of our heads.

Take care!
Reena

ps. check out Flylady.net. I really like the website.

Hi--- New here
I am so glad that you have found this site. I was touched when I read your writing about you stresses in being a parent as well as some of the problems you are having with your own mother.
I am a single mom age 43 -- My oldest daughter is now 23 years of age and my youngest is 9 years of age.
I would love to talk with you more if you would like. I myself have taken the attacking anxiety program and i have to say it changed my life. I am also very glad that this support from the Midwest center has grown into a very important online support.
Anyway, I have had my fair share of stresses relating to concerns for my girls as well as leading the a life with stresses that come with single parenting. I have also experienced and still do the problem of my mother and father favoring my older daughter over my younger girl. This is difficult and my younger one is hurt by this --- she cant understand as she says why her grandparents seem to love her less than her older sister. I can be quite the unfair problem that is for sure.
It is my hope that you will find others to share ideas with to help you in this situation it sounds to me like you are plain burned out.
Love to hear back from you soon