I have been pondering over having another child for the longest time now, I have two boys ages 5 and 10, and I know my husband really wants to try for a girl, but the truth is im scared to death! There is so many what if's in my head. Having to come off my medication, will I go through PPD again, and the main thing is im doing so well will I be making my life more difficult by starting over? If it werent for all that I would say yes to having a baby right away, but just to many what if's in my head. If anyone has some input I would greatly appreciate it. Karen

Karen,
Guess im fortunate i had one of each, hehe I do understand your questioning, and some of them are very credible. Like going without your meds. Maybe you should talk to your doctor first about this. And maybe take your husband with you, so if the med thing is a problem you will both be there so the doctor can explain it to you. The decision is really yours. And its a hard one to make. Just get all the facts, so you want be "what ifing". TAke careNelly

yeah, i was planing to talk to my doc next month at my next appt. because if I dont I will what if myself to death! LOL Guess I will never know until I ask him, and im sure he will oky it, and just have to monitor me during my pregnancy which is really not the problem, I feel wonderful when im pregnant it's just how I feel afterwards that is the problem.

Ever considered adoption?

have two boys..less than a year apart (forgot the pill one night..took two the next morning=didn't work)..and second one is handicapped...all grown up and love em. several years went by not wanting anymore..then one night i did. i love my daughter! all grown up too. lots of work, and self sacrificing raising children.. Our little people..the next generation. i'm so glad. but ALOT of self sacrificing and sleepless nights..some heartache..sometimes more...and TONS of work for years and years..and years. i love my "little" blessings. get your husband on board with a doctor consultation, so he knows the enormity you will be deciding. best to your family.

Karen,

I can truly relate to you wanting another baby. I had my son at the end of 2001 and had hoped that he would have a sibling sometime between his second and third birthday. Unfortunately I had to go on meds again when my son was 1 1/2. I was on them for a good while and had almost given up hope to have another one.

This past summer I was fortunate to be off meds again and my husband and I started trying for another one. But then I went through a move, sell of a home, purchase of another one, moving away from family etc and I stressed. I was totally crushed when I had to go on meds again. I figured at that point I would never have another little one. But then God answered my prayers. I found out on Christmas eve that I was pregnant again. I had to quit my Paxil cold turkey and experienced some very minimal withdrawls. I have to admit I am scared to do this pregnancy on or off meds, but I know that God will take care of me no matter what. And if I have to go on meds right after I deliver, I'm ok with that.

Sure adding another memeber to the family is stressful, but if it's what you and your husband want to do.... pray about it. Then go for it!

Good luck, and let us know how things go.

Carrie

ps (Karen if you get the chance look at my comment in the expectations section.. LOL.... I can totally relate to what you are thinking.)