Hi everyone, I'm new here and just trying to figure out where to begin. I received my program in the mail on Friday and started on Saturday. So I'm still really new at all of this. My husband asked me for a divorce about a year ago, and I know a lot of the problems (not all, mind you, I'm not taking responsibility for his actions) in our relationship are related to my long term issues with depression. We seperated at that time and our divorce was final in March. In that year, things went really crazy with my oldest child, who is seven, will be eight in August. He has always had problems with anger management, but he went off the charts during the early stages of our seperation. All of these things manifested in me having even more extreme depression, but also, I recognize know that I've really started having extreme anxiety in my parenting. It is difficult enough to deal with an explosive child, but when you can't pull yourself together, it becomes horrific. I am severely depressed when the kids are with their father, and having panic attacks a lot of the time when they are with me. Of course we've had ups and downs, but I really think that this program is going to help us. What is more, is that my son's official diagnosis (I'm sure you can guess this...) is severe depression and anxiety. I'm hoping I can find ways to help him as well through this program. I know Lucinda says they have helped kids "as young as 9" so I suppose he is too young to actually go through the program himself, even though (not to brag, or anything ) he is an extremely intelligent kiddo. Does anyone else here have experience in dealing with these issues themselves and with children? Particularly children with behavioral problems as a result of anxiety attacks?

Mostly, I just wanted to say Hi. Still trying to get a feel for the forums, but I know the parenting board is a place I'll probably be spending some serious time, so I thought I'd start off here!

Hi Ei,


Welcome,hope you have some professional help on board too.


Sincerely,Sit

More than I know what to do with at times.

Hi and welcome, Ei

I'm a divorced mom too. You're not alone.

Thanks everyone. I have really tried to stay positive, making plans for myself, trying to view the changes in my life as an opportunity. I've had a lot of trouble dealing with the ex's new relationship and her involvement with the kids...inspired a great deal of negative self talk, I'm afraid. I've dealt with a lot of abandonment issues in my life, which is problematic for a lot of reasons as you might imagine in a divorce situation and shared parenting (I had terrible anxiety attacks being afraid of him trying to take my kids away from me). My son's issues just make me more fearful because I worry a lot that I'm doing the wrong things, that the kids will be resentful of me, for discipline, that it is my fault...all sorts of things. Generally I have the anxiety attacks when he melts down though, because I can't stop it for him and I am scared for him. But yes, I recognize that I have to be well to help him. So this is where I'm starting. I also think that the relaxation tape may help some with him...it is short enough and straight forward enough that he could follow it well. We're gonna give it shot anyway. He needs tools that make sense to him.

I really appreciate your words. I'm really excited about getting started and I'm glad to see some vets around here too. Yay! Thanks everyone!

Hello and welcome.

I'm a divorced Dad with custody of my 3 kids 6 months a year.I was depressed about the last 2 years of my marriage but the divorce made that go away.If only it took the anxiety too. Take care.

You are in my prayers for sure! I'm not a single mom but my husband is deployed overseas so I have a lil bit of an understanding how it is to be alone and parenting.....plus my mom was a single mom so I saw all she went thru to survive.....it's rough and it's normal for you to feel the way you do while you're going thru all this......just remember this WILL pass and you can get thru this....you're a strong person because you are willing to change.....that also makes you a good parent
blessings, Amber D