Well I beleive I've had my third miscarriage is five months. All I want is a baby, why can't I have one? Has anyone else gone through this?

I am so sorry to hear that. Have you ahd your progesterone levels checked. This is a very common reason for multiple miscarriages.

Have you considered adoption if having your own doesn't work out? You could make a child have a wonderful life.

One thing to remember, is when these things happen, it is not your fault.

I wish you the best of luck and try to stay positive, I know it is hard when you go through this. I had one miscarriage and one was awful.
I feel for you!

Kristen L. Baker

first of all, i am so, so very sorry.

we got pregnant with my son on our first try. he was born 6 weeks early but did great. i went on to have four miscarriages and one tubal pregnancy over the next 2 years. i cannot tell you how hard that time was but it sounds like you know. in 2003 we started the process of adoption and our daughter came to us in 2004. last jan we found out that we were pregnant- without trying and i now have three perfect children- i am holding the youngest now and she is fussing/ gassy hence the all lower case. ask me anything that you want to and hang in there!!!! feel my energy and support! and sympathy!!!!

I had my first miscarriage the Friday before Thanksgiving. I can't imagine going thru another one. We got right back to trying afterwards and still no result which is why I am here again. It has brought on all these old anxieties and depression. Now I am questioning whether or not it was worth trying. I am so full of self doubt right now. I am wondering if I could even take care of a baby with all this anxiety and depression. I am so sorry for your losses. No one knows the right thing to say to a mother who has lost one. My hubby and I have been trying for 8 years and we thought that finally that it was going to happen.

That period was by FAR the darkest in my entire life. It was indescribable. That said, I would not change anything if it meant not being where I am today. I never thought I would say that- that period was horrific on so many levels and in so many ways. I still do not subscribe to the belief that "everything happens for a reason" or that we "are not given anything that we cannot handle" because that phase in my life almost broke me. But I cannot imagine life without any of my three children. Today I struggle with anxiety for different reasons and it is a struggle but deep down I am really, really happy. If you want to have children, you will have them. If you are worrying about not being the perfect Mom, you won't be no matter what so stop striving for that now (easier said than done). There is more than one way to become a parent, and I say that there is no one better way, but that is a different discussion entirely.....(-:

I have considered adoption...I know we always say "well what if I can't have kids" but you never really assume that to be true. At this point I am just starting to learn what my options are. I am still very hopeful. I have no problems getting pregnant, just staying pregnant. So hopefully there is something we can do about that. I have no problems adopting, but I really want to feel what it's like to be pregnant.

For Mom of Three: Did the doctors say why you had all those miscarriages? I guess you could say I'm lucky in the sense that my best friend has had a tubal and several miscarriages. They have a two and a half year old and they are finally pregnant with their second. They did find out while trying for the second that her prgesterone is low. So I have someone who can relate, but it's not easy to wait you know.

lizzy - have your thyroid levels checked....all three hormones, not just two. that was my problem. my hubby and i tried for 4 years. we started trying 6 years ago....i miscarried twice and saw a doctor that specialized in women's health and specifically hormonal imbalances. he does more natural remedies too. the thyroid medicine i take is all natural. It is called Armour thyroid. It is a prescriptionl, but it is natural. I was on it for two years and we tried and tried. still nothing. I gave up....sad, depressed and feeling like I was not a complete woman. Guess what? Our daughter just had her first birthday. Sometimes you try too hard, you obsess too much....relax, let go and let God. I'll pray for your peace with this. I know how hard it is, but I also know how rewarding it can be to keep faith.

God bless

Turns out I had a septate uterus- on top and running down through the middle was an extra piece of tissue that did not get blood flow but on which a lot of the babies were implanting. I was also on Clomid for a time and progesterone suppositories, had all kinds of procedures that I cannot spell but that have a combination of hystosalpinogram in the title.

HANG IN THERE!!!!

dear lizzbee, I can understand where you are coming from my wife and I have tryed for 15 years and have still not had a child we just lost another on in December. They say that If thats all you do is think about having a child it doesnt happen. Its because your not relaxed and worried about it. I say this because we are going through divorce and she was pregnat and as you can see we were not trying to have a child at this time. I know its stange but true. My best advice to you is when you know its time go and relax somehow and not think about haveing a child and enjoy the moment with your husband. I wish you both the best of luck.

I don't feel like I obsess or stress out about being pregnant. I try not to find out when I'm ovulating or anything. I stress out when I find out that I am pregnant because obviously I'm worried about miscarriage.

I haven't been tested for anything yet. My doctor wouldn't test me until I had three miscarriages. I have an appointment tomorrow morning to go over my options. I am very excited and hopeful. I'm not particularly fond of needles and things, but I'm willing to do what I have to. I'm hoping it's something simple, please keep me in your thoughts and think babies!

I have not had this problem, but I want to express my deepest sympathies.
I can't even imagine what it would be like to be in this situation.
It is, I think, worse now. They can show you the child in Utero, you can name him/her. And the fetus is no longer just a "thing". It was bad enough when we, as mothers, didn't know what was going on, but when it becomes so personal as it does nowadays.
It has to be doubly or even more awful.
I hope you will eventually carry to full term.
Good luck........

Well for anyone who is still reading this I wanted to let everyone know that I actually have a tubal pregnancy. I had two options: to have sugery or to take a shot of a chemo drug called methotrexate.

As you can imagine this was and is a very anxious situation. The surgey seemed to be ok but they would have to put me under and the thought of that made me very anxious. But the shot was a drug that my father-in-law took for psorisis and actually had a fatal reaction from it, so I wasn't really fond of that either.

After getting many opinions I decided to do the shot. Hopefully everything works out ok.

Just please keep me in your thoughts and if anyone else has had this same thing I would love to chat with you.

Thanks! Lizzy

how are you doing?

Honestly...I am so frustrated! I still have to keep going to get my blood drawn until my HCG levels go down. I'm hoping that happens because if it doesn't that means sugery and I CANNOT handle that. I am considering starting Zoloft to help and I need to go to the dentist because I have all these cavities and I think what if that's the cause so I want to get those fixed. I'm also overweight and I want to loose it because maybe that's a problem. And if that weren't enough I am sooo jealous of my friends. I have four friends who are pregnant and I am sooooooo jealous of them.

Lizzy--I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you are going through this. My first was an unexpected pill baby and my second was on the first try, so I've been very blessed. But then 2 years ago I got pregnant again unexpectedly and miscarried the day after finding out. Even though it was not a planned pregnancy it was very sad to lose a baby, and I can not imagine how hard it is when it is a baby you are planning.

I am praying for you and know you will have a beautiful, healthy baby before you know it.

Take care, Tara