My two kids are walking away from me and it hurts tremendously and it's all because they can't have it their way. My son's fiance is also very manipulative and quite the liar and of course he believe her over me and that makes me a bad person.

I don't know what to do here, HELP?

Ro

I see I had 30 people view my message and not a one replied to me. I came here for help and support and am not getting it.

I'm very happy for the 30 people that viewed my message because they must not have ever had the same problem.

I have lots of things that are helping the depression I already had before any of this started. But now my depression has gotten so bad, I really didn't think I would make it through the surgery I had last Friday, since I did I think it was wishful thinking - at least then all this pain I've been suffering would be gone and all the people in my life would have what they wanted.

I see I won't get help here either, so I out of here - I might check it one more time, if there's nothing then - I won't be back.

All I can say is someone else posted a new message after me and has had 3 replies and I've gotten none.

Hi RO,
your going to have to find some common ground. Go from there. Tell them you love them and would like to try and work it out. As far as the fiancee remember to keep your enemys close.
Cathy

I guess I need more info before I can put my 2 cents in the pot.

"My two kids are walking away from me and it hurts tremendously and it's all because they can't have it their way."

With respect to ...?

"My son's fiance is also very manipulative and quite the liar and of course he believe her over me and that makes me a bad person."

Sounds like a difficult situation. What is she trying to manipulate in her favor?

"I don't know what to do here, HELP?"

What would you like to have happen with your situation?

Ro

I am a mothe of a CHILD of 17 that has given me nothing but grief. H has abused me and has taken on an adult lifestyle.He thinks he can make it on his own now. I never thought he would be this way. I have a daughter that is great in school and I am a grandmother of another of whom is wonderful.HThe one that I am most worried about is my son.He can't drive until he is 21 bcquse of his grqdes. he cqn't keep q job becquse os his girlfriends and he has an aggressisve behavior when he doesn't get his way or when I tell him that he has to answer to the Lord.He doesn't believe that there is a God. You can talk to me any time. Just E-Mail me and I will do everything that I can to help you if you can help me.
I can only pray for you. as you for me at this point. I need help, but we can only do it together. I love You and pray for you even though I don't know you. We are in this parenting crisis together.And we will get though it together. IOt is time for me to go to bed. itn it 10:30 pm central.
write me. I need to talk as I'm aure you need to as well.
write me write me write me. I am finally here for you because I need you.

I'm sorry for being so vague, but my story is a long one. Thank you to you all for caring enough to answer it. After I read it again I could see why no one would want to read it. I'm also sorry for taking so long to reply back but I had surgery May 5th and I'm still not back to normal. My 4th back surgery - this time they inserted a spinal stimulator, my kids didn't give a damn if I died during that surgery. My Mom passed away after being in a vehicle accident with my brother. My brother was ok, except a broken nose that he wouldn't let them look at since he was so concerned about our Mom. She'd been fighted Small Cell Cancer and it was in her lungs. She went through Chemo and Radiation and was supposably in remission but she was loosing quite a bit of weight and you could juse tell. The accident crushed her lower vertebrae and all they could do for her was put her in a brace. But since Mom's lungs were in very bad shape she couldn't cough and the morphine kept putting her in a comma. I had to kick my brother's daughter out of the hospital room when a doctor came in to give us two options - my brother looked at me and I chose to move her to hospital and give her enough morphine that she wasn't in any pain any longer and she has wanted to die since my father did 11 years ago. My father died 9-23-94 and he was 69 - My Mother died 9-9-2005 and she was 69. My brother moved back to Iowa after my dad died and his neice moved in with my Mom and my Mom has supported her ever since, along with a few guys that were allowed to move in with my Niece. Somehow since we didn't like all the moochers my Mom turned on me so bad. I kept trying to get her back - what I mean is I wanted our Mother/Daughter relationship back. I believe my niece got it in return. Mom hurt my feelings at the hospital by not noticing me. My neice went straight back to Mom's and took a lot of things that were to be mine. My baby book, lots of picture of me with my parents as I was growing up. My great grandma's quilts - Then I let my son move into my Mom's house with the idea of him buying it. That was a huge mistake. After leting him live there rent free for 6 months I mentioned rent and his wife and soon to be Mother-in-law really went off on me and when my son finally got into the house he sided with them and stood cold to me.

I found out while showing my Mom's house to Real Estate agents that they had made an offer on a house but they didn't get it. He was asked twice that day - once by me and once by my husband and he would answer it so that told us he was - the question Are you walking away from your Mom.?

I let me daughter have Jaydon her son that I have guardianship over for a few days and that scares the hell out of me.

I'm alone feeling - my husband won't listen and we're having problems. I can't do anything - cook - housework because of my back and he grew up living like a pig and now I have to and it's driving me crazy - I don't I've left out a lot.

Thank you for all your kind remarks.

Ro

Ro,
Im so sorry this has happened to you. Its horrible what families can do to each other, espeically the greedy ones.If your mothers house is yours, then i would sell it, no matter what your son says. Im sorry your they stole th ings from the house but that happens alot when someone dies. I have been th rough the same thing.Please concentrate on getting yourself well!! Your kids are no longer kids but adults, and they have to start taking responsibilty for thier own actions. I know for a mom its hard to let go, but every mom has to come to that point. Its time for you and your husband to think about YOUR future. Its okay to do that now since your kids are grown.Its not selfish, its for sure no one is going to take care of you but YOU!!! You have alot of strength still after what you have been through, dont give in and dont give up.You will be in my prayers. God Bless you Ro,, Nelly