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I just started lesson 5 today and since the program, I think my anxiety has gotten worse instead of better. I know everyone says that this is normal, but when should I expect it? At what point in the program? I make sure I try and go somewhere everyday whether I really feel like it or not. I will go somewhere like K-Mart, Lowes, Wal-Mart, etc. I know they say you have to face it and once you do, it will go away. It bothers me just as much as it used to. I get in the store and I am nervous, jittery, and all those bad feelings that come along with the anxiety. Like I said I don't avoid it and I don't leave, even if I start feeling really bad. I do all the positive self talk on my way there and while I'm in there and it still happens. I'm not scared of the feelings, they are just really uncomfortable, so you can't even enjoy being there. The one problem I have the most of the time and it lasts for days sometimes is the off balance-dizzy feelings. It's hard to cope with that one. My question is, at what point and how many visits to the stores is it going to take until these nervous, jittery, awful feeling STOP? I took my dog to the vet today for shots and was nervous all morning and was even sick at my stomach. The minute the vet came in and close the door, my heart started beating fast and the dizziness got worse and I just kept talking positive and tried to look at pictures on the wall to get my mind off of it, but once this happens you feel bad all day. My arms will tingle and go numb too. It doesn't scare me anymore but when does this get better?
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I Dont Know If I Can Offer You Any Help But I Am In The Place You Are But I'm Only In The Second Lesson. I Have Had Anxiety For About 6yrs. Really Really Really Strong For About 9 To 10 Months. I Had Panic Attacks Almost Every Day. But Then All Of A Sudden I Started Slowlly Getting Out Of My House (I Couldnt Leave That Whole Time). By About Two Years Later I Would Be Able To Get Out And Socialize With People Fine. But Now For The Past Couple Of Months It Has Been Getting Bad. So Bad To Where I'm Getting Like I Was In That First Year. But What Is Keeping Me Moving Is That I Know I Can Get Passed All Of This In Time.
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Stein:
Thanks for your response. I am sorry to hear that your anxiety is coming back. You will get better again. You have done it once and you can do it again. Stay positive. I know sometimes it is hard to do when you feel so bad. Just knowing that there is people that we can talk to about all of this that understands helps so much. Take care! |
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Hi Carol!
I had the same thing, I wondered when is this going to leave! What helped me is listening to the first lesson, over and over again. It just pounding into my stubborn mind that these symptoms/thoughts were not going to do me in and I CAN go and do things. I think once I accepted anxiety, symptoms and all is when they started to lessen. This is just a growth spurt. You WILL conquer it. Well wishes, LizB "Afterall, everybody only hears what he understands." by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe |
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LizB:
Thanks for your encouraging words. This is just one of the hardest things to conquer. I know I will improve with time, it's just that you want it so bad and I have worked so hard on the program and I am so scared that maybe I am going to be the one that it isn't going to work for. I feel like by going through 4 lessons I should feel better. I have read so many of your posts and I think you are such an inspiration to everyone on here. I just want you to know that I hope and pray that everything works out for you on Friday. My thoughts and prayers are with you. You are such a strong positive person. God Bless You and take care  Carol |
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Hi Carol!
I appreciate your thoughts and prayers. Thank you so very much. Please know that you too will get there. You will be strong, positive, confident. Late last year, I never thought I was going to this strong, NEVER! I still have growth spurts, rough spots but I bounce back quicker than before, these no longer send me reeling into a corner afraid. I do get backed into the corner, but I get myself out as quickly as possible using the skills in the program. The old saying, mind over matter really holds true. Please do not get discouraged. It takes time and pratice to do this, but it will come, trust me it will.  And when it does, you will feel so strong, confident and free.  Sure rough spots will come and go, it is life, the good and the bad, but it is all in the way you percieve and react to it. I know there is a strong person in you that is growing and evloving everyday; that strong, confident, positive person will emerge and you will be so very proud of yourself.  Take care Carol! You WILL do this! Blessings, LizB"Afterall, everybody only hears what he understands." by Johann Wolfgang von Goethe |
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HI Carol:
All my life I thought I was the only one feeling off the wall. Since I ordered the program I have found myself,and have a better understanding. However I am still stuck on lesson on I just have this fear that I can't go any longer with the program. I am sure its fear. I know if I get past the fear and do it I be ok. I responded to your post because I go through the exact same thing as you. I have so many fears that I dont know which is which. I know this did not happen over night. This will take time and you may have to repeat the lesson over and over at one point one time wont be enough. You,and only you will know when you are ready. It works differently in all of us. I don't know if you are taking any meds to help you along the way even if its for short period. Anxiety is very powerful I have or am still learning to cope with it. I hope you know you are not alone. Jess
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carolw, i am just going to start the program, but i saw your comments and i am wondering how you are doing?
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CarolW,
It isn't merely "facing it" that makes it go away - it is LITERALLY facing it and ACCEPTING IT and to remind yourself that it is NO BIG DEAL. It isn't enough to just "feel the fear and do it anyway"..... YOU MUST talk to yourself truthfully WHILE DOING IT. Positive self-talk is VERY important while practicing ANY endeavor. If you wish your symptoms/feelings/thoughts away while you are in those places, you will just continue to feel bad; however, if you truly ACCEPT them being there and remind yourself that it's no big deal and that you are okay and so on.... if you do this enough, you will indeed begin to see your feelings dwindle into nothingness. AS SOON as you become introspective again and focus on how you feel- you only intensify those feelings and cause yourself more discomfort. This is not ACCEPTING. When you are out and about - make yourself LIMP, ACCEPT whatever comes your way, whatever feeling you feel. If you feel dizzy or light headed, it's okay. Stand there a minute and let it happen. If you have a hard time remembering what to do while practicing- use your flash cards that came with the program. There are helpful things to say to yourself as well as a list of steps that you must take to overcome your panic/anxiety. " You must do the thing you think you cannot do." Eleanor Roosevelt |
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Stress Center Community Forums "Attacking Anxiety & Depression" Program Participant Questions & Support Started Lesson 5 today. When does it get better?
