I have had the program for over a month. I like the things that I have learned and feel that I am not alone From reading and hearing others talk about their anxiety. I feel some anxiety when I hear that others are experiencing such great relief after lesson three. I am starting lesson five and feel very hopeful, but still feel anxiety. My husband is very supportive at times he says in his words that he is trying to fix me when I come to him with an anxiety. He has decided to step back. I never meant for him to fix me. I feel a separation.I think I know the answer. I need to follow the program myself. Just trying to find support. Thanks TMR

I understand what you're going through. Years ago when I began the program, my husband became very frustrated when trying to help me.
There is only so much our husbands can do for us. The biggest thing he can do for you is to just let you talk and then encourage you to put your skills into action. It's OUR job to praise ourselves when we follow through and work hard. You are going through something that your husband cannot probably identify with personally therefore you are probably feeling a bit of "separation" but I assure you that this is normal and it will pass as he learns more about your struggle. My husband tells me know.... after recovering from anxiety, panic and agoraphobia that he was VERY worried about me going "nutty". He didn't tell me because he knew that I was worried about the very same thing and he didn't want to worry me anymore than I was worrying myself inside.

Don't be disappointed when you hear that some reach recovery before you do. Everyone is different and you need to allow yourself to take whatever time you need to heal and recover. If you pressure yourself to be like everyone else or worry why you are not like everyone else, you will only delay your own healing and recovery.

Be good to yourself. Follow the program and TAKE YOUR TIME. You will be glad you did and DO NOT worry about what others think.

Hang in there ! Most people feel better by lesson 3 because they have a better understanding what is happening to them. It's scary when you experience panic and anxiety or even depression and you don't understand what is happening to you. Therefore finding out what's wrong is such a relief for many people; however, finding out there is work to be done makes some people anxious. Either way, be true to yourself.

I've had great successes throughout my recovery. I am no longer like I was and haven't been for so long, yet , I am still not where I want to be. I have come to understand that recovery is a life-long process. It's a process of always trying to better ourselves and our ability to handle stressors. I have come to understand that I am just like everyone else that feels stress and as long as I use my skills, I'll be okay. The more you use your skills, the faster you will master them and before you know it, it's like riding a bike, you do it without much effort at all.

Hello everyone! I am new to this program. I haven't even recieved my 30 day trial packet. I just want something to help me with depression. I am a mother of 2 and very happy with that part of my life. It's the relationship I'm in that causes me depression.

When we first met, it seemed as though we were meant to be together, but doesn't all relationships? He seemed to appreiciate all that I do for him and his son, 6 yrs old. It's kind of hard for me because my children are 20 and 14. I feel as thought I am starting all over again and I'm not sure if that's a good idea. Now, don't get me wrong, I love his son very much and he is a wonderful boy. Great manners! I just think that if my boyfriend would help me out with some things and show me love and appreiciation I wouldn't be so depressed.

I have been married once before and it ended up the same way. He was selfish and he had 2 children that I took care of while he did everything he wanted to do. I feel like this relationship is headed in the same direction. We have been together just over 2 yrs. and I do love him. Sometimes I wonder if it is just me?? Because I am a mother I do a lot for him. It's just I feel like all I want to do is make life easier and happier for him BUT he does not do the same for me. I have created a monster? We have those heart to heart talks at least once a month and he know everything I feel. I do not sugar coat anything. It just seems to go good for a week or so and then back to the same ol' same ol'.

Well, does anyone have any advice for me? Please if you do, you may email me at suzymh817@yahoo.com I would appreciate any advice. Thank you for reading. God bless!
Susan

Dear Susan Marie,
I am also new to the program and I guess I have no business giving you advice on this matter but here goes.
Maybe he seems not to appreciate you because of your depression or maybe he doesn't know how to handle it because he doesn't understand it.
If you truly love him I think you should wait until you go through the program and then make your decision. Maybe he will watch and listen to the tapes with you so he has a better understanding of what your going through.