HI everybody i just started session two well sunday nigit i always feel like if i dont do the sessions perfectly im not dong it rite i have tried doing this program a couple times but i always get frustrated if i dont do it perfecally an give up im tring to do the hole thing this time an not give up anybody feel the same an have any advice

Same here, but my concern is am I putting enough energy into it. It seems that week 1 & 2 are simple or am I just not getting it. Am I suppose to be doing more?

well scott i feel the same way to well maybe someone will be able to help us both i felt that way the last couple times ive done this program always thinking im not dedicated enough to it so maybe someone with more experice will be able to help good luck

Just do the program. We are not perfect. Do what you can and let it go. Focus on what is important and do it he way that they tell you. If your waiting till you are perfect at it, then good luck cause none of us are. I went through 1 2 and 3 then went back and reviewed them all for a couple more days cause I felt I missed something. Then I moved on to 4. They tell you not to jump around. Complete one week at a time and do it like they tell you the best you can. Each week as you go on you will notice you are getting better and better. Sometimes I spend more than a week on one session. I listen to the tapes about 3 different times and read the lesson at least twice. and hear the video once or twice and do the homework the best I can. I am not always satisfied with my performance but I keep going. I also keep one of those spiral 3x5 card things and write down on them all the things that really helped me or the things I need more help on. Then I go back and review that way. It has really helped. Keep trying and listen to others suggestions as well. I am getting better one day at a time!

I have been working the materials and I even listen to the Relax CD more then 3 times a day, even if I can't stop what I'm doing, I listen just hoping it is getting in there subliminally. Then I do it one good time at bed time and I usually don't make it through without falling asleep.

Today has been my best day this week, but of course there were no real emergency's at work either.

Hey Tomd. I can relate. I had this program for almost 2 years before I even started it. Its amazing how anxiety and irrational fears can keep us from doing things. I was just waiting for the "perfect" time..when it felt"right" to start the program. hahaha. If I would have waited for the "perfect" time I'd still be waiting because there is no perfect time, but there is no time like the present.

I felt like if things weren't "right" then Ijust wouldn't get the most out of the program, But believe me, it's just a distortion. I've felt it before. "uhhhh I messed up, so I have to start over" It's the same kind of thinking that used to cause me (with ocd) to take an hour trying to tie my shoes.

If there is some irrational fear, some distortion that's telling you that you need to do this or that "perfect" then I would suggest that you just examine that concept, recognize this as a distortion and dismiss it. It's like the baseball player who has to wear three pairs of socks and play with his batting gloves for 30 seconds before he bats or he thinks he'll miss. ITS JUST IRRATIONAL GARBAGE. Don't let it get the best of you. Please I know how you're feeling.
I've had a couple of times during this program when it was late at night and I fell asleep without writing in my journal like I had wanted to or without listening to an audio cd I wanted to and part of me was tempted for a moment to get all irrational and think" uhhhh, now what I "messed up"...now I'm not going to do as well I'm not going to get the same results, I'm blah blah blah". Thats irrational crap And instead I thought about it briefly in a positive, healthy, rational way and I said " Ok no big deal..there is no such thing as perfect, this is not a big deal and to think that this kind of thing could be the defining factor in how successful this program will be for me..is just irrational crap. I'll just reflect on yesterday and do today's and yesterdays journal together. IT's NO BIG DEAL" and that was fine.

If you're waiting/looking for some negative idea or *perceived* inperfection to tell you that you're gonna fail, then you'll find it. This is anxiety and irrationality we're dealing with here man. If you show it a weakness it will go for it. But if you show it any courage/resistance at all it will crumble in front of you. You can overcome it.

And one last thought on doing the program "perfectly"...I've noticed that while the program is structured, it really is very loose as far as having a solid specific format to follow. And I don't think this is an accident. People dealing with these problems have the tendancy to over anylyze and be perfectionists, but you can't really do that in regards to the schedule in the guidebook. It's worded loosely without much of an imperative tone. If you're telling yourself that you need to do it "perfectly" then you are creating in your head this concept of how to do it "perfectly". I would suggest humbly that you try to be rational and tell yourself that by giving up you're only perpetuating the myth, the lie, that there actually is a valid reason for you to give up or start over. Don't give your power away, don't get tricked by thoughts. Persevere even if you don't really feel like it and I believe you'll overcome this distorion and overcome your problems. You can do it! Good Luck

I was doing so well until i had a vertigo attack three mornings agao . It was so bad i was spinning for hours i took a gravel and went back to bed but the memory of it has brought me backto being afraid to go out and go to far i was doing so well now im back to that again i was getting out and trying to walk by myself i feel like i will never get there again. My family is getting tired of me being afraid im tiored of being afriad . I hate panic and anxiety and i hope to beat this sooner than later.

hi selly32. I don't know anything about having a vertigo attack, but what I do know is that you don't know when you're gonna have another one of these. Would you feel any better if a year went by without having one? If you waited that long and then one day decided to stop avoidance, that day could be the day, after a whole year that you have one again. My point is that although it's easier said than done sometimes, you can't obsess or worry about something when you have no idea if it's gonna happen or not. None of us know what is coming 5 minutes from now, let alone tomorrow. Don't let anxiety and irrational thinking trick you and keep you down. Your short post is filled with negative suggestions that are bringing on more negative thoughts and feelings. If you're feeling bad about your family then maybe you should try to talk to them about it and have real good communication, that way you'll feel like they're more on the same page. And let them know you're determined to overcome this. And please don't let your mind tell you that you're going backwards or that you're right back there..You have to try to be rational and positive. You can persever. Don't quit, don't let this garbage overcome you. Remember none of us knows what will be in 5 minutes, so there's no point in obsessing over it. It's like the little kid who has to go to the doctor..He's scared and getting himself all worked up because he thinks he's gonna get a shot. He gets so upset that he's feeling nauseous and he's filled with butterflies, he's so upset that he wants to cry. His mother brings him in, the doctor checks him out, and sends him home. there was no shot. He got himself in such a negative state thinking about this thing happening and it never even happened. Now..when he was still at home feeling that anticipatory what if anxiety,..he still wasn't going to get a shot. he just didn't know yet. But it didn't change the fact that he got himself sick over it. I think we do this a lot, get ourselves worked up over these negative thoughts that most of the time don't even happen. But if you're entertaining these thoughts and you're letting irrational thinking and anxiety take over, then your body is gonna act like its real. Again I don't know what a vertigo attack is like, but remember you don't know when one will happen right? So you can't just sit and wait and anticipate with fear. Like a panic attack, if one occurs..you will recognize it, and deal with it in a healthy, positive, rational way. Inevitably things are going to happen to us in our lives that we don't want and/or aren't prepared for, but you can't beat yourself up. Don't let your mind talk you into being depressed over this. It happened, but you can't let it consume you. You have to adress it and keep working. You can do it. Good Luck