Does anyone get periods of anger due to low self steem or always blaming things on other people? For some reason I get angry and I have a bad temper when it comes to my anxiety. Any ideas on how to cope?

I get periods of anger and up until I started this program, I didn't realize it was part of the illness. I do have a bad temper. I especially get upset at stupidity and ignorance. I think maybe if you self talk and start recognizing when you are doing it, you will eventually stop being so angry. Especially if its a trait you don't like about yourself...you are going to be more willing to change that.

I absolutley get angry! Before, I found this program I was letting the phyciatrist and several doctors send me through several different programs and rehabs, and I still was never given the tools. Yes, I became educated about several drugss, and what they do to the body. Doctors put me on anti-anxiety medications, and narcotics for pain after a terrible car accident. Before, I knew it I was addicted and required this mediacation to get certain task done. It took me about three months but I dont take any medications today.. I just wish this program was taught in schools, because this a huge part of survial..."life"! Many people go undiagnosed and are sent to different doctors without any direction..

I too was in a car accident...was put on all the meds, gained weight, etc. I am angry at the doctors and I am angry at the cop that hit me. I'm also angry at my stepfather for initially causing me the anxiety. What I've had to do is work through it. That cop that hit me is probably still out there running red lights and probably doesn't have any idea what my life has been like. My stepfather is (and I know this) now married to his fifth wife (my mom was his second) and is most likely distroying her life too (let's hope she doesn't have any teenage daughters). I've got to get all this go. I haven't fully done that yet but I think its what has happened to you that makes you angry, not the anxiety. The anxiety is your body's way of coping. Does this help?

Gordo, it sounds like you're describing two issues: 1. getting angry and blaming other people or events. 2. Getting angry about having anxiety. Both are real. I can only imagine that we'll be getting into these pretty quick, but you're not alone. Strangely enough, they are each a kind of habitual choice or a trained response. You can break the habit and train in a new, healthier response. We'll probably talk more as we both do it.

One of things that really get me going is my kids will be playing and I can hear them starting to fight and then boom it happens then I start yelling they are screaming because one of them hurt the other one and then I start saying this sucks or this is the worst. I also do the same thing at work when something does not go right. I become easily fustrated and I seem to be wainting for something to go wrong and then when does I am set off.

Gordo, I know EXACTLY what you mean! I am extremely short tempered and just now becoming aware of how it plays into my anxiety. I am also easily dissapointed in others. I expect a lot of myself and others. However, this is an unrealistic expectation, as I am learning here. One tip on KIDS that worked great for me, was having a Time Out. Me...not them! If my kid did something that made me angry, it wasn't on purpose. I took a 20min time out in my room and asked to not be bothered. After all, kids are pushing their limits all the time and I showed mine how to "time out" leading by example.Took him a few times to understand that I neeeded to stay in my room for a while but it worked like a charm!He came to know that time outs were good for both of us! Hope this helps