I am starting session 7 today. Anyone else? pinkee

I actually ended session 7 yesterday and starting 8 tonight on Anticipatory Anxiety. im looking so forward to it. Pinkee, i noticed you on a lot of posts so we should keep in touch with eachother's progress! Happy Studying!

Sounds good

How is it going for you so far? pinkee

I am starting session 7 today, This is going to be a tough one for me. I think I am going to get a good self help book as most of the poeple in my life are a lot like me! Including my boss!

Hi pinkee, things are going great with the session BUT i experienced a lot of anxiety last night when I was trying to listen to the relaxation CD and go to sleep. I get like a burst of adrenaline, feel like im gasping for air and then a muscle twitch. It prevented me from going to sleep but I eventually fell asleep and i felt rested this morning.so Im dealing. I know my monthly is on its way so im dealing with a lot of hormonal changes and it usually like this around this time. but it can be challenging at times.

My anxiety level has been up a little more the pass couple of days and it is probably due to a cold that I have. Not feeling well and not sleeping well, makes sense. Hang in there, Maria, tell yourself that the hormones will level out, this will pass, hugs, pinkee

KJ, let us know how it goes with your book, hugs, pinkee

Im hanging in there Pinkee! and now that you mention it, I have been telling everyone since i have started eating better, sleeping better, and exercising that i have not been sick or had a cold in awhile and it seems like i got worst once i started feeling like i was about to get a cold. It was like I was all happy like i havent been sick in awhile (cause in the past my friends would say i get sick ALL the time) and then i feel the slightest bit of a cold coming on and i freak out!!then i got into this "worrying session" thinking that my asthma was coming back! its just unbelievable how your mind can spiral out of control!!

Today at work, (retail store) I had a chance to practice my skills when someone that I work with was really behaving ugly. I did not blow up like I would have in the past, I thought about it, decided to let some time pass, did think about her actions all through out the morning and then, like a light switch, I decided to look at it like this, "It's not about me, this is her junk. I will not take this personally" I'm still irritated (not furious) because this person worked really hard throughout the day to push my buttons, but, I am not sorry for things that I said, I have no anxiety, no guilt....etc. I still feel like I owed myself the chance to assertively speak up, but, I've decided to take a time out until I return to work on Friday and see how I feel then. What do you guys think? pinkee

I read a few pages into the homework and I can see that this is going to be a great study for me. Passive/Agressive, I can sooo relate. pinkee

Hey Pinkee,

It sounds like you did a really great job applying the principals of session 7 at work!!!

I loved session 7, I had numerous opportunities to apply skills learned from it. Each time something happens that would normally make me angry, I just think of it as a practice opportunity and I use assertive behavior to work through it. It takes a lot of practice to get it right, but I'm giving myself a pat on the back just for trying! We all have to start somewhere with it..

Keep up the good work. :]

Pinkee I think you did an excellent job in applying both session 6 & 7 at your job today. Lucinda talks about how we often react so fast to our anger without even thinking and to give it 10 sec to 24 hour before we react to it or to think about it. and oh the time was so well spent for you. And im sure this co-worker will notice the change in how you reacted to them and will soon realize that pushing your buttons will no longer work for them. Im proud of you! So how did it go for you at work friday?

Well, on Friday, I went back to work and when I saw her I chose to ignore her. I felt it best and figured if I don't speak to her she doesn't have the chance to come back with something ugly. Not sure if I didn't make it worse. Now, she intentionally approaches other co-workers that I am having a conversation with to show me that she will not speak to me either. Is this escalating? Opinions welcomed. pinkee

Pinkee its kind of hard to tell if the problem is escalating or not by not being there but in my opinion, I would keep in mind what Lucinda says about when a problem or conflict arises to either Resolve or Dissolve? Is it worth it being assertive and speaking up the girl and telling her how you feel in a professional manner to prevent it from happening again which I know can be difficult because i deal with the same thing on a daily basis with a co-worker at my job. It sounds like she is very childish and sometimes ignoring her will work. Your not ignoring the problem your realizing that fueling her fire by saying comeback to her just makes the situation worst. I think as long as you dont get in the middle of gossip that may go on and continue to ignore her then she may stop or if you say something to her about the situation then it should go well. Keep in mind why was she behaving ugly in the first place? was it something you did wrong? or is this person probably mad over something that doesnt even have anything to do with you yet they take there anger our on you. remember misery loves company. Im confident you will make the right decision. Let me know how it goes

Thank you, Marie!