I'm finding that getting on line and typing out my feelings takes so long and no one seems to answer my questions that I'm ready to give up this part of the program. The tapes keep saying get on line, chat with others but it sometimes take a long time for anyone to answer me and I go to bed and when I get back on line I can't find a comments and If I do there is only 1 comment. I appreciate the few that have responded but I just don't find this to be very helpful.My neck and shoulders get soooo tense and uptight when I try this that I don't feel that it's worth feeling this way for so little response and benefit. Does anyone feel the same way?

Yeah, pretty much. I don't participate in a lot of forums normally, so it's a stretch for me to do this. I don't feel like I can really get to know anyone this way. Seems strange to me. I find the chatroom difficult as well- it really stresses me out. I mostly just lurk and see what other people are talking about and if it applies to me. I can usually find something interesting. Occassionally I will reply, but not often. I think it just depends on how comfortable you are with this type of communication, and everyone is different.

You know what, gals? It just takes time. I felt just like you did in the beginning and sometimes I still get frustrated when I can't find something I posted to. Also felt like is anyone going to answer my questions. It might help to PM someone but then I did that in the beginning at times and no one responded either. I enjoy typing and hearing back from people. If your neck gets stiff, move it slowly from side to side. I hope you both will keep trying because this is a great way to meet people. How far are each of you in the program?

Hi Karen,

First of all I want to welcome to the forum.
If I can be any help to you can PM me anytime and hopefuly I can help you. I felt like you when I first started, and there were times when I posted something that I did not get a reponse for, but I just kept doing it until I felt comfortable. Sometimes people just do not have an answer.
I think you should give it a chance it can realy be helpful.

Debbie

I'm moving along slowly. I'm in week 9. How 'bout you?

Hi Karen,
I have been reading others posts for two weeks and reluctant to reply. I felt I had nothing to give since I was a mess. I made myself post everyday because of my desperate need to beat this or these conditions and to do this I had to jump in with both feet. I wanted to reply to you and by name (first time). This feels different and I like the feeling. There will be small breakthroughs along this journey that we can share.

I felt wierd at first too. I have only posted three replies. I am on session 10 and was doing real well for a while but now I am digressing a bit.

hey all of you, trust me, it gets better and better. Keep coming on expressing your feelings and soon you will be giving help as well as getting it. If you feel you haven't gotten help yet, don't give up, HELP IS ON...THE WAY!

*Karen*I'm sorry to hear about not getting the responses you needed. Just hang in there. There are a lot of friendly and caring people here. If you ever need to talk pm me

Come on everyone, where else can you ask any question you want and receive helpful, encouraging answers from kind, nonjudgemental people who know exactly what you're going through? Start replying to a few posts or add some new discussions, you'll be amazed by how many others can relate to you.

Wow Karen. You took the words right out of my mouth. NOt that I have anything against forums. I like em. But they don't have a huge payoff. It's nice when you feel people are at least listening and care about your problems and lack of answers

I do like the people here though. Especially the staff. I just think one problem is that it is understaffed. There are just not enough good people that are helping. I understand if people with severe anxiety aren't in the state of mind to help others.

The other thing is the chat room. I went there and found people but most were just there hanging out and chatting about this that and the other thing. NOt very helpful.

I agree I like the idea of the forum but i feel that i am bef=hind everyone else and that i am not getting very many responses due to that. it gets kind of frusturating