Hello,
I am in week 10 of the program and I had hoped I would have progressed more than I have at this point. Does anyone have any hints that work for them?(example:magic words or phrases) I am open to anything, and I am really enjoying the program.
Please help me if you can. Nothing is too silly.
Thank you so much

Hi Dawn,

I have a few phrases that help bring me into the moment and out of the future and the past, which we all know is what keeps us in anxiety--the negative way we think.

This is my second time around w/the Program now and it is really different for me this time around...I cannot really explain it well...but it is if I am 'seeing' it in a new light. I also notice that no matter how I am feeling...whether or not I am having a bad day or I am ill...whatever the situation...I still feel ok I now know it is so normal to not always feel great...no one always feel great...that is not reality. I like myself the way I am each day no matter what the circumstance. This alone has changed me so much. Sorry if this confuses you...I really can't 'get it out' what I am trying to say here...I think it is a realiazation that you will come to and you can understand what I mean than

I hang up positive affirmations all over my house. I have things such as:

It's no big deal

I am my safe person, I am my safe place

If my thoughts can make me sick, they can soothe me as well. I can choose which thoughts I will entertain, and I choose the positive, true ones.

Live in the precious present moment

Life is 10% what happens, 90% how I react to it

Remember, it is not the burdens of life that way us down, it is how we handle them

I can't control the events in my life, but I can control my reaction

ETC have many more...all over the house...on the bathroom mirror, the fridge, my bedroom mirror...now if company comes over I take them down as it is none of their business how I choose to get good at being positive and feeling soothed and comforted

Hope this helps and hang in there, as Andrew said there is no deadline and this is not a test. Be patient and gentle with yourself and repeat the Program as many times as you need to as practice makes us get real good at this

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~Angel



[This message has been edited by Angel (edited 02-13-2001).]

Great stuff, Angel!

Here's one I learned from someone in the Forum, "What if is not today." I just learned that last week and I love it!

Keep up the good work, Dawn,
Helen

Today, I was thinking I was back to square one and then I completed the questionnaire that is in the front of our workbook and also on the web site. Much to my surprise I went from a 47 to a 34. That was encouraging. I then reminded myself of all the things I have done since starting the program, and I have come far. Just not far enough. I am in control of that, though.

I am starting over again. I didn't do it diligently the first time around. Did you?

I listened to the tapes in the car and as soon as I started feeling good I put the book aside and picked it up only now and then. I never did the spiral notebook thing which I understand is very helpful and I journaled only now and again.


GOOD LUCK!

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Always Hopeful, Betsy H.
Marietta, GA (East Cobb)
Happily Married Walton High (Volunteer) Mom.
Anyone from this area (females only), I would like to find a support person, and be a support person. Maybe meet and walk at school or the park or the Avenue. I get around, not housebound, but I still keep my problem a secret. You know, I look "IN CONTROL" but inside feel far from it.

Dear Dawn,
This may help with all the wonderful suggestions from the others.

"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Bibical quote.

Points from and beyound the program that go with the quote help me:

I don't call or label people anything I don't want to be called.

I want people to listen to me so I listen to them with interest.

I won't be critical since I don't want them to do so to me.

I like it when people I interact with are neat and clean therefore I keep myself and surroundings (not perfect) but pleasantly acceptable.

I love notes and e-mails that are kind and supportive therefore I do likewise.

I love having friends therefore I make myself availabe to be a friend.

I want love and respect without "shoulds" or high expectations from my family and friends. Therefore, I treat them likewise. This has made a wonderful differance in relationships.

I find fun in self-improvement and look at it as a rewarding challenge.

I look at the dark clouds in the sky as art, the cold weather as wonderfully crisp, the rain as beautifying the earth, and a hot day as embrassing warmth.

I look at problems and concerns over self or family as an opportunity to problem solve what I can and therefore have power over the situation. When I can't change it then I look at it as an opportunity to build the character of endurance.

I do not make happiness as conditional.
I am happy for what I have and don't dwell on what I had or don't have.

Should the worst happen - death then there is the resurrection. If a loved one dies it gives me the opportunity to comfort the living. If I'm the one dead then I won't have anxiety anymore.

If I apply the above then my relapses are less and further apart.

And if I relapse again. "It's no big deal."

Have a great day.

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Victoria

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Originally posted by Dawn:
Hello,
I am in week 10 of the program and I had hoped I would have progressed more than I have at this point. Does anyone have any hints that work for them?(example:magic words or phrases) I am open to anything, and I am really enjoying the program.
Please help me if you can. Nothing is too silly.
Thank you so much

Prayer is the key for me.Remember one thing and thats worrying doesn't add one day to your life and it doesn't take one day away from your life. So, live every day as it come.I have also went through some Healing Touch Theraphy.This really relaxed me. Healing Touch is an energy based therapeutic approach to healing. The process influences the body's own energy fields that support life.If, you would like more information on this program contact The American Holistic Nurse's Association. I hope yopu get better,if you need someone to talk to you can E-Mail me @ Ewill68925@aol.com