I just recieved my package over the weekend and started lesson one. Great info but nothing I didn't already Know. I know what is happening to me and I know it wont kill me. I need to know how I can prevent myself from having an attack everytime one of my college age daughters leaves to go out into the city at night.(NYC or Boston)I am so afraid that something is going to happen to them on the train or on the street. If I don't get a call that they reached their destination safely or are on hteir way home, it's instant diarreah and panic.

china,
I understand the feeling your having. But you have to get past lesson ONE, there are many tools and skills in the programs but they arent in lesson one. thats why there are 15 lessons, so you will train your brain to use the tools and skills once you know what they are. Im a mother to, and remember well teen and college years with my kids, try to focus on something besides obsessively thinking something has happened to them. Give yourself some pamper time just for YOU!!!! God bless you Nelly

I wanted to add that, for me, there was a VAST difference between knowing this information and using it. I knew it, too, and I also have a degree in counseling. But I still had to learn how to apply it and live it. Good luck!

jbzelliot,
I agree, i think that is true with all of us, we know what it is, we know the tools, but applying it to our own lives is difficult. Thats where practicing and repeatition come in. We have to keep practicing daily , several times a day, for it to soak into our subconscious. Our conscious, knows, but our subconsicous doesnt, so we have to force it as they say, and the more we do , the easier it gets. take care, Nelly

THis is one that i have a tremendous amount of problems with,but also know what the answer is .You must be able to fully accept the thoughts you are getting and cause your anxiety and to be able to live with the uncertainty that something may or maynot happen.I know this is not easy,but truly i believe it is the only way to truly retrain your brain from a sub-conscious level.God Bless

china... talk about instant diarhea... thats me I hit a very anxious time today and all day i have had the problem. cant seem to leave the bathroom. It is amazing how anxiety does that to us. I get all sweaty get myself all worked upand boom back in the bathrooom. i know it is stress and anxiety i konw what it is.... but when your in it ...it is hard to get out. stick to the tapes... we all "Know It AlL" BUT WE NEED TO USE IT AND DO IT.. THIS TOO SHALL PASS.....its a struggle i know but want you to know that those symptoms are mine too and i understand
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So my daughter went out to meet friends for dinner last night. She said if I go anywhere else i'll call you. She said she'd be home early because she had to work today. When she didn't come home or call by 12:45 the heart started racing, the stomach started gurgling, etc...thank God for cell phones...I think...if she doesn't answer right away that starts another chain of thinking... she called me back and said "sorry, I FORGOT"...I'm on my way home. I don't want to sound like an obnoxious mother, but they cause me to be this way. It is just common curtesy to call.
Is it that cray for me to get this way?

I don't know how old your children are. But a friend of mine told me once that if it is God's plan for something to happen to them, then so be it. You are not powerful enough to over come His plan. I was and still am kind of like you. My daughter is 19 and going to college. I worry about her everyday she is gone, but you have to, at some point give it to God. I know this is easier said then done. Worry will bring on anxiety attacks and of course the IBS comes right along with it. Try to relax and tell your children how upset you get when they aren't on time or call.

Keep the faith!

China,
My son moved out of the house at 18yrs old. He lived away for about and year then moved back in with us. The same pattern of my worry started all over again. Id wait up for him to come home, and he would end up staying the night with a friend and not call me. After a week or so of this, i told him bluntly , that he was welcome to live in my house but,,, he was to call me before 10:00 and let me know if he was coming home that night or not. If he wasnt willing to do that, MOVE OUT!!! Its called respect china for you, and you need to set some boundaries with your kids, even if they are college age. Its up to YOU, not them to make the rules in your house. It was very inconsiderate of your daughter. And someday when she has kids of her own she will understand what we parents go through.But until then, set some ground rules. Take care, Nelly

thanks Nelly...I do set the ground rules and she usually does follow them, but I think at 18 she just forgets...we did talk about it and she understands because she also suffers from anxiety...(poor kid she got it from me)