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Caught your attention I bet?!

Any skinny guys out there who can't gain weight? That's me. I think it's a combo of stress and metabolism. I tend to lose weight if I don't eat like a champ.

Just wanted to chat about it, cause it's one of my biggest insecurities when I'm in an anxious episode.
 
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jer,
i have been skinny all my life. just in this past year, after i found out how to control my anxiety and panic. did i start to eat better.. and i quit smoking. i can say that stress was a factor in mine...i gained 20 lbs..this summer.. thats ok.. my wife loves my belly. lol... Big Grin
 
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I am not a guy, but have a male friend who was 6 foot and 130lbs.

What he did was LOTS of protien shakes (Weider weight gainer) in between meals for snacks. He would have 3 of those a day. Mid morn, mid afternoon and for dessert. Check out a health food store, GNC or Vitamin Shoppe; those stores carry protien shakes. Also what my friend did was to lift LOTS of weights. With a year, he was pretty darn buff! Funny when we started lifting weights, I was benchpressing 150lbs, which at THAT time was my weight and leg pressing 500lbs; he could not even bench press 50 lbs or leg press 100lbs! He is not have a pro weightlifter body, but he went up to 170 and looks great! It is possible, do not get discouraged. Keep trying! Wink


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I'm 36. I'm naturally thin. I DON'T gain weight easily. Never have. The BEST way for me to gain weight is to eat up to 5 small to normal sized meals a day, supplement with one or two protein shakes or meal replacement shakes and work out with weights regularly. I mean work out 4 days a week. Don't miss meals. Don't eat garbage food. Keep that stress level low. I regularly weigh in at about 170 to 172. I just went through a divorce and I'm fighting to get my weight above 160 now. When everything was good, I peaked at 195 of solid muscle at about 10% body fat. PERFECT! But on the other hand, I was fanatical about muscle size, working out and gaining weight. I don't really think that's the best thing for everyone. Myself included. At this point I just want to be healthy, look good in a suit, widen my shoulders a bit, have a hard midsection and just feel good. I guess I'm rambling, but if you have any questions you think I could help you with, please ask. I have friends that are giant muscle-heads, and friends that are just into staying in shape and everything in between.

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That's me. I am 5'11 and 150 lbs and am 20 years old. I think that my anxiety, stress, and ibs are the reason I can't gain weight.
 
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I have the same problem...It seems a lot of people eat when they are stressed etc. I think I am the opposite and don’t eat when I'm stressed, my stomach twists and turns and I don’t want to eat. I have to make a conscious effort to eat, I know if I dont I end up feeling worse and it's a vicious cycle.
 
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Here I am 61 yrs. old.
Still haven't learned how to stop anxiety, and depression--There for my name:
This is my angel Natasha!

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Oh you lucky guys........
Just wait till they put you on higher doses of SRRI's
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you reach 50 + ..the weight just seems to pile on,

I am female. I didn't have a problem with my weight.
I was 5ft. 1/2" and weight about 100-103 lbs.
But in my field (ballet) that was too much. They wanted me down to about 90 lbs. I could never get to that. My set point was 100.

But once I got past 50, the lbs came on, and on.
I actually got up too high...160 2 yrs ago, and wound up with a major attack of Menieres which made me stop eating.
Now I have small meals about 5 times a day.
This has helped me lose weight, but I can't get back to the 100 or even 110 I would like to be at.

So, if you are naturally thin, feel good about it.
If you have IBS....I do....then you need to eat the proper diet, and it is hard when you are in such a painful state.

Good luck, and don't feel bad or beat up on yourself if you are thin and still healthy.

Bek


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My skinny body is one of those things I'm still insecure about. I'm 5'5, weigh in about 135...and it can be a HUGE downer when I'm having an anxious episode.

There has been sooo much emphasis on getting people too loose weight in the media, they'vecompletely forgot about us men who struggle just as much as the weight loosers do, to put on weight.

I've gone a protein bar diet this the past few weeks. I eat pretty large portions of protein of food, never miss breakfast, have one 30g protein bar a day, snack on nuts and dried fruits, drink lots of water...and friday evening, I had fish and curry for a midnight snack. I'm not gonna weight myself until my last protein bar, but hopefully i'll be up to 137 at the least.

I've got 2 positive reinforcements I use if I'm feeling depressed, and my "thought pattern" wants to use my tiny bod as a downer.

1) Ok, yes you are ____ tall, you weight_____ pounds....are you telling you are going to let your god given body and soul bring you down? There are people out there who would probably sell everything they have to be and look where I'm at

2) One day your metabolism could kick in like a ton of bricks, and you won't be able too enjoy some of the foods you enjoy now. Dig in.

Cheers y'all

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I'm 29 male, 5'9 and weigh in at 105 lbs.

I am convinced that anxiety is the root problem. I went to the doc to get every imaginable test done and they give me a clean bill of health. The ol' "just eat more" bit.

I spent 2 months in the rainforest away from all stress and gained at least 10 lbs. As soon as i got back I lost it all. Interestingly enough that when i came back my anxiety came right back up.

Same thing when i went to india. I gained 10 lbs but lost it all as soon as i came back.

So now i am convinced that it is all about the anxiety. It revs up the system and the nervous system. My mind feels like I have my finger in the electrical outlet. State of mind trickles down to affect the body. If the mind is burnt out, so will the body.

I also noticed that when i was in india and peru i could eat anything i wanted - even wheat. But when i come back i seem to have food intolerances which cause my skin to break out like all my pores are irritated. I also get huge backne. It all seems to be triggered and made worse by the anxiety.

I really need to gain weight. I'm really emaciated and look like a POW. Not cool. I should be in my prime.
 
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I am not a man, BUT i am very skinny and I know that it is my anxiety/depression and IBS causing this. Well, the anxiety caused the IBS so. . I am 5'1 and weigh 92 pounds )-: I am totally insecure about my body. Went to the dr and apparently last yr at this time i was 10 pounds heavier! Its so hard for me to gain weight yet, so easy for me to lose it. . . That being said, I have always dated extremely skinny men. 6'4 at 120 pounds , 6'0 at 110 pounds. . . I just love skinny men and fond it very attractive. . . But most men I feel, love woman with curvy volumptious bodies. . this is a great topic though!


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hello all. I'm 41 years old, 5'11' and have weighed around 150 my whole adult life. I have been working out like an SOB for 20 years and do visibly look a little more toned because of it but as far as overall weight gain, doesn't seem to make any difference. When I do gain weight (at most one or two pounds) from pigging out on protein drinks and bars, it goes to my waist. Anyway, I get teased, harassed, ridiculed, for being too skinny all the time, by family, friends, even complete strangers! In my 20's I could shrug it off, I dated a lot, I'm not a bad looking guy, but as I get older the comments just weigh me down more and more. being 40 and skinny seem to really bother people for some reason. I'm afraid to go out in public, I've become very social phobic because of this. Not only do people seem to always have to point out to me that I'm skinny (like I don't realize it) but I even hear (or think I hear which is really scary) people saying things like "he's so skinny" when I walk by them. I rarely wear shorts in public. I have friends, but fewer, and fewer, as I get older, and they seem to be Embarrassed by me being so skinny (even though they never used to be.) I go out less and less and I've become so phobic about going out in public. Everyone seems to think that I'm skinny by choice and that i need to eat more, or work out more, or exercise less. And to make matters worse, I injured my back working out so now I can't work out at all, not that it made much difference. Actually 150 for 5'11' isn't THAT skinny, I'm very fit, but for some reason I must look skinnier than I am. So what does one do, ignore it. How? Bulk up, I've tried. just don't go out so you don't have to be humiliated anymore, that's seems to be the best answer. yes I'm anxiety ridden, have been all my life, but I'm not sure that's why I'm skinny, I have a very small bone frame, so i think it's totally genetic. i know I'm a healthy, good looking guy, but it doesn't matter because being skinny is such a turn off, or irritation, or so disgusting to people, that it's all they see and concentrate on. I'm really not sure what the remedy is, how much brow beating, humiliation can i take?
 
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