I am the nurse in a drug addiction out paient treatment center. We have on counselor who is obsessive compulsive and drives us nuts. She will expalin and analize for 30-40 minutes WHY she is behind, WHY she can't catch up and explains it to us like we are idiots. He explaination of WHY she was going to be leaving late from work took 40 minutes to EXPLAIN, when she could have said "I have a little more work to do and will be leaving approx 2:45". But instead she took untill 2:40 to tell us that. I am the one who locks the door and has a security code so I have to wait for her.Anyone have any suggestions of how I can tactfully tell her to shut up and just do it?????

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Originally posted by kayz28:
I am the nurse in a drug addiction out paient treatment center. We have on counselor who is obsessive compulsive and drives us nuts. She will expalin and analize for 30-40 minutes WHY she is behind, WHY she can't catch up and explains it to us like we are idiots. He explaination of WHY she was going to be leaving late from work took 40 minutes to EXPLAIN, when she could have said "I have a little more work to do and will be leaving approx 2:45". But instead she took untill 2:40 to tell us that. I am the one who locks the door and has a security code so I have to wait for her.Anyone have any suggestions of how I can tactfully tell her to shut up and just do it?????

Are you sure this lady has OCD or, if she does, that it is the OCD that is causing this? It just sounds like she is incredibly annoying.

I would just-- while she is doing this-- say okay thats alright I understand and then walk away from her. Do this a few times and if she doesn't get the hint then-- you could try making a joke about it to her. Maybe say something while you are in the middle of a conversation, like: "Damn, her name, you really love giving long explanations huh?! (laugh)... stop worrying about it.. it's fine.... walk away."

Worst comes to worst let her superior know about it-- one of the down falls of being a boss, sometimes you have to be a jerk and tell people things others are too scared to say.

WELL, NUMBER 1, do you even know what OCD is? if you TRUELY did, you would NOT think of a way "TO SHUT HER UP"! If she even has OCD that requires YOU and many others to try and be patient and kind. Get MORE educated and I hope YOU never, ever get OCD, it is, at times, a pure hell nighmare.

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Originally posted by kayz28:
I am the nurse in a drug addiction out paient treatment center. We have on counselor who is obsessive compulsive and drives us nuts. She will expalin and analize for 30-40 minutes WHY she is behind, WHY she can't catch up and explains it to us like we are idiots. He explaination of WHY she was going to be leaving late from work took 40 minutes to EXPLAIN, when she could have said "I have a little more work to do and will be leaving approx 2:45". But instead she took untill 2:40 to tell us that. I am the one who locks the door and has a security code so I have to wait for her.Anyone have any suggestions of how I can tactfully tell her to shut up and just do it?????

Thank you for the input. I felt a little hostility from the lilac lady, and yes I do know what hostility is. I also know what OCD is. I guess she will just always be annoying and waste my and my co-workers time and energy to analize, explain, re-explain and rationalize all of her steps to having everyting in perfect order, while causing more caous.

Maybe you should try pulling her aside and letting her know that while you sympathize with what she is going through, her behavior is getting to be a bit extreme. Ask her if there is anything you could do to help her but she can't keep doing what she is doing for whatever reason. Not sure if that helps at all but worth a shot.